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10 Reasons Adwoa Aboah Is More Than Just A Pretty Face

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WENN A year--or maybe a year and a half ago, I had no idea who Adwoa Aboah was. I stumbled across her in a YouTube doing an interview, more on that later. Since then, I keep seeing her around...the internet.And the more I learn about her, the more I realize just how dope she is and how much she's using her platform to empower other girls and women. See what I mean. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u-s5brkrZgg

Founded Gurls Talk

The video explains it all. Adwoa's organization was founded with the mission to get girls to share in hopes that others would be encouraged and inspired by their shared or diverse experiences. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0B1nHj-Ob0Y

She Keeps The Letter She Wrote To Herself In Rehab On Her Fridge

We're certainly not mad about that Hug Life zine either.

Or Diversity in the industry

Aboah shared these thoughts with HypeBae"It has to be something people prioritize — it should be the number-one priority. Representing all types of beauty, all types of shapes and sizes. I don’t think the people in power realize how detrimental it can be to a way a girl looks at herself if she flips through a magazine and only sees one type of woman. [Fashion] should take it more seriously — and I understand, you can’t change it all overnight. But it’s laziness that you’re not looking outside of the box and looking at what is right in front of you." https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xbBVmKOHaus

She's Authentic

This StyleLikeU video is how I was introduced to Adwoa. Even though the title of the video explained that she was a model and she addressed it later on during the interview, she spent most of the time speaking about her struggles with drugs, depression and so much more. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WdXkEurbMv4

She speaks openly about her suicide attempt

Adwoa shares that when she was struggling with depression and then attempted suicide, she expressed that she didn't feel like it was something she could share. But now that she's on the other side of things, she admits that talking was the key.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zEbhUxPJBRo

On Self Love & Responsibility

It's nice to hear someone who is thoughtful about their growth and evolution and is intentional about how she shares that journey with others.

She's Not Afraid To Express Her Admiration for the Greats

We love when famous people, folks who have a following in their own right, fan out over their faves.

V Grateful. @womensmarch

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She's Not Afraid To Hit The Streets

Camels and Chanel. Morning World.

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The Cool

While we can do without the cigarette, she has a Chanel piece on her tooth, for God's sake. There's something very "your old drunk, but exceptionally wise uncle" about it. Vintage Black cool.

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Effective Ways To Cut Calories You Won’t Even Notice

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[caption id="attachment_833661" align="alignleft" width="1068"] Bigstockphoto.com/Young beautiful african girl in sleepwear smiling eating flakes with milk at home. Copy space.[/caption] You probably have a friend who claims that cutting this food out of her life helped her lose weight. It may have been something obvious, like bread or cheese, or something that seemed bizarre, like mushrooms or cashews. But, as much as we like to think there is some magical formula or button we can push to help us lose weight, the truth is you lose weight when you expend more calories than you consume. That’s it. If you want shocking proof of the matter, take a look at this human nutrition professor who ate nothing but Twinkies for several months—restricting his calorie intake of the sugary snack—and lost 27 pounds. So your friend who claims cutting cake out of her life entirely is her secret to being svelte could really still be eating her cake; she simply needs to cut down on portion size. If you want to lose weight but don’t want to feel like you’re ever missing out, here are simple, effective ways to cut calories you won’t even notice.   [caption id="attachment_717453" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Thin out your sandwiches

When making a sub, scoop half of the bread out of each slice. Six inches of wheat sub bread could run you around 230 calories, so scooping it could slim that down to around 130. This makes more room for your healthier, lower-calorie fillings. Opt out of mayonnaise and instead try adding olive oil, vinegar and salt and pepper for flavor. Always choose plain meat like sliced turkey or roast beef over mixtures like chicken or tuna salad. [caption id="attachment_698591" align="alignleft" width="421"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Drink half water/half juice

If you’re big on juice, you could be drinking a lot of calories. One cup of apple juice contains 113 calories. Try this: fill your glass halfway up with juice, and the other half with water. You’ll still have a sweet, refreshing drink, with half the calories.     [caption id="attachment_707056" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Mix your veggies and protein into your pasta

First, look at the amount of pasta you’re going to make and match that in veggies and protein. So if you’re making four cooked cups of pasta, make two cooked cups of vegetables and two cooked cups of your protein. Mix everything together in one giant bowl. You’ll end up eating the same portion size of pasta, but now only one-third of it will be carbs—but you won’t notice so long as there is some pasta in every bite. [caption id="attachment_717443" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Switch to tequila soda

If you like to drink a few nights a week, then you need to know the calorie count in your alcohol. One glass of wine contains 125 calories. If you have three glasses at dinner, you just consumed nearly 400 calories! Meanwhile, tequila has just about 70 calories per one-ounce shot. Two tequila-sodas with lime will cost you just 140 calories. [caption id="attachment_616239" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Snack on popcorn

One cup of plain popcorn with just a little salt only contains around 35 calories. However, because you spend so much time munching on a handful, and because it’s a whole grain, a little bit of popcorn can fill you up. Next time you want to reach for, say, pretzels (228 calories in just 10 small ones) try popcorn instead. If you’re a big snacker, you could save yourself hundreds of calories a day by switching to popcorn. [caption id="attachment_707616" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Slim down your bagels

Scoop some of the bread out of your bagels just the way you did your sub sandwich. One plain bagel can contain around 300 calories so doing this could save you 100 to 200, depending on how much bread you remove. Rather than using cream cheese, add something with a bit more protein like scrambled eggs or cottage cheese. These will fill you up and contain fewer calories per tablespoon than cream cheese. [caption id="attachment_693902" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Switch out your chips

There are 160 calories in a tiny one-ounce serving of most traditional potato chips. Once you cover them in your favorite dip, you won’t even notice the actual chip, so switch to baked chips, tortilla chips or celery sticks if you’re really committed to cutting calories.   [caption id="attachment_608315" align="alignleft" width="500"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Revamp your fries

A medium serving of french fries can contain nearly 400 calories. Switch up your potato side and try, instead, a baked potato, plain potato skins with a little salt and pepper, or popped chips. You can save yourself a couple hundred calories if you skip the fried stuff. [caption id="attachment_703391" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Cut your filet in half

Most women only need around 40 to 50 grams of protein per day. A six-ounce steak (which is one of the smaller options at most steak houses, by the way) already fulfill’s your entire day’s protein requirement. Since six ounces of medium fatty steak contains over 400 calories, cutting your steak in half and saving it for later could save your around 200 calories. [caption id="attachment_701534" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Slim down your burger

Scoop bread out of your bun, skip the cheese and stick to relish and mustard as your condiments. You can easily remove 300 calories when you remove some bread, cut out the dairy and avoid condiments like ketchup and barbecue sauce.     [caption id="attachment_830645" align="alignleft" width="420"] Bigstockphoto.com/Tasty pizza with cheese and pepperoni slices, closeup[/caption]

Healthify your pizza

First off, always go for thin crust since the majority of your calories come from the crust. In fact, one slice of a medium regular crust pizza from Dominos contains twice the calories as one slice of thin crust medium pizza. Next, pile on the vegetables and protein so one slice fills you up more and keeps you from reaching for additional slices.   [caption id="attachment_706510" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Go sugar-free on your Frappuccino

You love your icy, blended, whip cream-topped drink from your favorite coffee shop in the morning. But many of these drinks contain between 400 and 500 calories, and you’re grabbing one after you’ve already had breakfast. If you go sugar-free, a 400-calorie drink can become a 200-calorie one. You can always add some Stevia on your own. [caption id="attachment_711666" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Try this creamy dressing

You already know dressings like Ranch and Thousand Island aren’t exactly waistline-friendly. Two tablespoons of ranch dressing, for example, contain nearly 150 calories. But if you love creamy dressing, try this: combine half a tablespoon of Dijon mustard with one tablespoon of olive oil and one tablespoon of lemon juice. It’s creamy, zesty, and good for your heart. [caption id="attachment_608342" align="alignleft" width="500"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Trim your tortillas

If you eat a lot of Mexican food you need to take it easy on the tortillas. Restaurants and taco trucks often stack two tortillas per taco. But one small corn tortilla can contain around 60 calories. If you have three tacos, you just consumed 360 calories in tortillas! Remove the second tortilla on each taco. Oh, and on fajita night, only make one, well-stuffed fajita since a large flour tortilla can contain 300 calories. [caption id="attachment_717591" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Buy a food scale

The best way to quickly cut calories at every meal is to buy a food scale. Often, we simply overestimate the size of a cup or an ounce, but depending on what you’re eating, that overestimation could cost you hundreds of calories.

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Unspoken: Friends Talking About Friends

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By Patricia Elie 

Have you ever secretly talked about your girlfriend’s awful outfit or casually mentioned how you dislike her new boyfriend? If you answered yes to any of the above questions, then you may have broken one of the most valuable unspoken rules of friendship.

Unspoken web series

Let’s be clear, I’m not talking about the friend who expresses how she loves your apartment or how much she loved the jumpsuit that you wore last night. I don’t think anyone would have a problem with positive commentary being shared about them when they’re not around. The unspoken rule of friendship that I am referring to is the one that prohibits us from talking negatively about a friend behind his or her back.

You may say that this offense depends on the subject matter of the topic, so let’s say you heard rumors that your friend is caught up in an abusive relationship. After hearing the story, you decide to share your findings with a mutual friend. Did you break the unspoken rule of friendship or does it depend on the chatterer’s intentions? In my opinion, a friendship shouldn’t be severed if a concerned friend is talking about another friend’s safety or well-being. However, a friendship may need to be questioned if that chatter about a friend seems to be about nothing but gossip, or if an individual is sharing their grievances with everyone but the person they have a problem with.

But what if you’re honest with a friend, to their face, and they’re still offended? Friendships are based on honesty, loyalty and trust. In a perfect world, a friend should be able to speak candidly to their friend, but we know that may not always be the case. We’ve all known a person who wasn’t able to handle the truth. As a friend, you may choose to spare a friend’s feelings, recognizing that the person has a track record of not being able to handle what you have to say. That includes keeping your concerns about their new love interest to yourself or your thoughts on the life they live.

However, there’s a difference between knowing when to bite your tongue about your friend’s business because they can’t handle it, and telling everyone else how you feel (you just have to get it off of your chest in your mind) because the friend in question won’t receive it well.  For example, you and your girlfriends go to dinner and everyone except for one is slaying from head to toe. You’ve noticed that your friend’s fashion sense has been off as of late. Instead of telling her, you secretly discuss how tacky her ensemble is with others at the table.

Here’s another example: What if your friend’s boyfriend flirts with you and you mention the encounter to everyone except for the friend? While I could understand not knowing whether or not you should tell your friend since it is sensitive information that could impact her relationship, at the same time, it isn’t information that should be passed around to everyone but the person who is affected by it most.

We trust that our friends will have our backs and not repeat something we’ve told them in confidence to others. We expect that when we leave a room, our friends aren’t slandering us. And when we need to sit down and have an honest conversation with them, we also want our friends to be compassionate to our feelings. But if we can’t talk openly with and be respectful of our friends then why have them in our circle?

Patricia Elie is the creator and writer of “Unspoken Web Series,”a dramedy about five fabulously single life-long girlfriends from college who seem to break all the rules of friendships. Subscribe and Watch “Unspoken Web Series.”

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The Prodigal Housewife Is Returning — Are You Here For It?

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Your NeNe Leakes break is over because the reality star — or queen rather, as she’s dubbed herself — is making her way back to the “Real Housewives of Atlanta” (RHOA).

Yesterday, the cast’s most outspoken member ever announced she’s returning to the Bravo series for its 10th season. Proclaiming, “The real is back.”

NeNe starred on RHOA since its beginning in 2008 up through the seventh season, only making guest appearances during season 8. When she announced her official departure from the series in 2015, amid acting opportunities like starring on “Glee,” “The New Normal,” and even in Cinderella on Broadway, she wrote on Instagram:

“This is so hard for me to type! I cry as I do so! I am so Grateful for all the love and laughs! Thank you so much to everyone that has watched and supported me over the years on this amazing platform! With lots of thoughts and prayer I’ve decided to step out on faith and not fear.”

At the time, show creator Andy Cohen said NeNe would always be welcome back and it looks like he made good on that promise.

According to People magazine, filming for the 10th season of RHOA is expected to begin soon and “While no casting decisions have been announced yet, Burruss, Williams, Kenya Moore, Cynthia Bailey and Shereé Whitfield are all expected to return — while Parks will not.”

It’ll be interesting to see how the show dynamic changes between the women on the show now that the “queen” is back and what they think about this news. Are you here for NeNe’s return?

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Eve And Maximillion Cooper Just Celebrated Three Years Of Marriage

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Credit: Lia Toby/WENN.com

With Hollywood breakups and divorces being as common as one-hit wonders, it’s important to celebrate the famous pairs who are still standing strong and Eve and Maximillion Cooper are one of them.

Yesterday, marked three years since the couple walked down the aisle in Ibiza, Spain, to say “I do” after dating for four years. And to note the day, the Philly rapper shared a throwback post of her wedding day on Instagram, noting she and Max’s love story is “like a dream.”

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Max also made note of the happy day on his IG page after expressing sadness over the Grenfell Tower fire which occurred near the headquarters of his company, Gumball 3000.

“And now to some happy news…,” he wrote. “Today is our 3rd wedding anniversary! Can’t believe this amazing day in Ibiza was 3 years ago already… I ♥️u #mrscooper #eve #wifey #cooperfamily#june14th #weddinganniversary

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Eve, 38, began dating Max, 45, in 2010 and is a stepmother to the British entrepreneur’s four children. When she appeared on “The Real” last year, Eve said she knew her husband was the one when he saw without her weave.

“According to Eve, after dating Cooper for a year and keeping her hair looking pretty fabulous while in his presence, he saw her at the salon with her natural hair out. When he was more intrigued than shocked by her appearance, as she said, “That’s when I knew! ‘I guess we’re staying together.'”

In one final sweet moment, Eve posted a real-time photo of her and her hubby on their anniversary looking happy, healthy, and in love last night. Congrats to these two!

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Struggles Only Women Who Don’t Care About Makeup Understand

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[caption id="attachment_833667" align="alignleft" width="1068"] Bigstockphoto.com/Attractive young woman lying on chaise lounge with a cell phone laughing and pointing to herself in a mirror. Horizontal shot.[/caption] If you’re a woman in America, it’s assumed that you love hair and makeup products, days at the salon, free makeovers at the makeup counter in the department store, spa days, contouring tips…you get the idea. Makeup isn’t just an industry—it’s a culture. In many friend groups, doing hair and makeup is the social activity. So if you’re a woman who just couldn’t care less about doing her hair and makeup, who sees chapstick as a form of makeup, and believes so long as you brush your hair, you should be ready for the day, you can feel a bit left out. If you are into hair and makeup, you probably wonder, “How big of a deal can it really be to not like these things?” We’ll show you. Here are struggles only women who don’t care about hair and makeup understand. [caption id="attachment_702725" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Getting ready together—what’s that?

When your friends want to meet two hours before the party to get ready together, you’re baffled and bored. You already got ready at home. But if you sit out the getting ready part of the evening, you’ll look antisocial. So you go to your friend’s house, and pretend to poke at your hair while your friends contour their cheekbones. [caption id="attachment_617897" align="alignleft" width="451"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Certain gifts are wasted on you

Gift cards to hair salons, makeup stores or just about any place that involves hair and makeup are wasted on you. But you’re a woman, so you’ve received a lot of these over the years. You could probably sell them and buy half a car.     [caption id="attachment_701093" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

The salon upsell. Ugh.

On the rare occasion you do go to the salon, it’s just to get a simple haircut. You dread the part of the visit where the stylist tries to sell you on this relaxer, that curling mouse, this styling gel and that dry shampoo. Okay, maybe you’ll take the dry shampoo—it feeds into your lazy girl habits.     [caption id="attachment_701110" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Everyone wants to give you a makeover

People constantly think you’re the nerdy girl in “Clueless” and get all giddy over the idea of giving you a makeup. The thing is, it’s not that you don’t know about hair and makeup—you just don’t care. You know what you look like made up, and you feel indifferent about it.     [caption id="attachment_698602" align="alignleft" width="469"] Shutterstock[/caption]

You don’t have what your friends need

About once a month, a friend meets you at your place before you’re supposed to go out, and she needs something you don’t have. Curling iron? Nope. Contouring brush? Nope. Even a nude-colored lip liner? Nuh-uh. Your friend is out of luck if she plans on getting ready with your supplies.     [caption id="attachment_609049" align="alignleft" width="415"] Shutterstock[/caption]

People often assume you aren’t ready yet

You’ve come out of the bathroom many times to a friend, a date, or a family member and heard the question, “You’re not ready yet, are you?” But you were ready. They just didn’t think you were because you weren’t wearing makeup.     [caption id="attachment_720938" align="alignleft" width="414"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Your beauty blogger friend is insulted

You have a friend who either works at a makeup store, has her own makeup line, or makes a living as a beauty blogger. You have no interest in what she does, which upsets her sometimes. You’ve never watched one of her videos on doing the perfect smokey eye, and you’ve never wanted to try the free samples she gets from work.   [caption id="attachment_717848" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]

People think you’re making a statement

People often applaud you on the societal statement they believe you are making. You aren’t making a statement—you just never got into makeup, don’t feel like getting into it now, and enjoy saving your money. But you don’t have anything against women who wear makeup.     [caption id="attachment_703937" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

It’s apparently ironic that you love clothes

People often say, “How can you love clothes so much and not care at all about makeup?” But you don’t see the connection. You can love a good pair of jeans, and not take any interest in bronzing your cheeks. Just because you want your butt to look good doesn’t mean you have to want gold shimmer on your eyelids.   [caption id="attachment_698716" align="alignleft" width="438"] Shutterstock[/caption]

You’re judged for your carry-on bag

Your friends often get jealous-angry that you don’t have to pay the baggage check fee when you travel. But since you don’t bring a briefcase full of blush brushes and hair straighteners, you can get away with traveling with a little carry-on suitcase.         [caption id="attachment_719139" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

You sit and wait for your friends a lot

You feel like you spend a lot of time sitting around and waiting for your friends to get ready. And when you look at them and think they look ready, it turns out they still have 45 more minutes of things to do.       [caption id="attachment_702157" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

YouTube tutorials drive you crazy

You’ve sat around for a lot of girls nights where one person wanted to show the group a makeup tutorial, and that reminded another person of a makeup tutorial they liked. Suddenly, the night went from drinking wine to learning how to put on the perfect liquid liner.     [caption id="attachment_705288" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

People pitch you “natural” makeup

Everybody has tried to pitch you this lipstick or that blush that looks so natural, people won’t even know you’re wearing makeup. You know what looks natural? Not wearing makeup.       [caption id="attachment_618443" align="alignleft" width="500"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Spa days can be a bust

When you go to a spa with friends, you’re all set after your massage. But they want to get their hair done and try every treatment in the place meant to add a glow to their skin or shine to their hair. So you sit in the hot tub alone for an hour. [caption id="attachment_714935" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

You cut and color your own hair

You cut and color your own hair. It doesn’t always turn out great but it’s nothing a bun or a hat can’t fix. People will try to convince you that spending $200 is worth it for natural-looking sun-kissed highlights, and you don’t have the heart to tell them you don’t even notice their pricey hair color change.

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Jada Pinkett Smith Says Jaden, 18, And Willow, 16, Have Already Moved Out

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When it comes to parenting, Will and Jada Pinkett Smith have always made it clear that they allow their children to be free, particularly in terms of freedom of expression. But they’ve taken freedom to the next level by allowing Willow and Jaden, 16 and 18, to move out of the family home.

Willow and Jaden

In a new interview with Haute Living, Jada revealed that Jaden and Willow, who have pretty busy lives juggling music, modeling and acting opportunities (Jaden is away in Toronto filming Life in a Year with model Cara Delevingne and Cuba Gooding Jr.), have flown the nest. However, they’ve found their own digs less than 10 minutes away. And while they all agreed on taking this step, the kids are still very much attached to their parents.

“It’s funny,” the 45-year-old Girls’ Trip star said, “they’re not around, but they are!”

She continued, “I don’t even have time to miss them! Willow loves to call me every day, and even Jaden, when he’s away on set, still needs to see Will and I when he gets homesick.”

No matter how far away the talented twosome go, they still do a lot with their famous parents. You can see the family vacationing together and attending events around the world pretty often. And we know Willow and Jada are front row fashion show favorites. But whatever they all choose to do together, Will, Jada, Trey, Jaden and Willow, they value that time since they’re all incredibly busy.

As Jada told the Huffington Post last year, “Everybody works so when we come together, we’re focusing on each other. We really cherish the time we have together.”

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Can You Spell Prague? The Funniest Videos From The #NickiMinajChallenge

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[caption id="attachment_833830" align="aligncenter" width="1068"]Nicki Minaj challenge KIKA/WENN.com[/caption] The other day, Nicki Minaj boarded a private jet from London to Prague. It should have been business as usual, but the rapper made the most dramatic entrance to the aircraft possible. She made sure that she let her haters know she was doing big things that they never could: https://www.instagram.com/p/BVTZb6EB7vf/?taken-by=nickiminaj&hl=en Many interpreted the video to be a response to Remy Ma, who this past weekend, brought out a who's who of legendary female rappers, as well as newer talent, as a headliner for Hot 97's annual Summer Jam concert. One of those rappers included Minaj's other nemesis, Lil Kim. During her set, Remy performed "SHEther" with images of Minaj flashing on the Jumbotron screen. In Minaj's mind, the best way to slight someone is to remind them of your success, so she happily swung her weave, clip clopped her way up the steps of that private jet and into the lap of luxury. The video has since snatched everyone's attention, with the very extra clip inadvertently launching the equally extra, but comical, #NickiMinajChallenge. Check out some of the newest and funniest versions, and make sure you know how to spell Prague out here. https://www.instagram.com/p/BVXtpiFFIWz/?tagged=nickiminajchallenge&hl=en https://www.instagram.com/p/BVVm9Adn2n2/?tagged=nickiminajchallenge&hl=en https://www.instagram.com/p/BVVnSYyl2pQ/?tagged=nickiminajchallenge&hl=en https://www.instagram.com/p/BVWodyDlenJ/?tagged=nickiminajchallenge&hl=en https://www.instagram.com/p/BVVuCHBlGpV/?tagged=nickiminajchallenge&hl=en https://www.instagram.com/p/BVUqQ9vBSSu/?taken-by=nickiminaj&hl=en https://www.instagram.com/p/BVWTuefhirI/?taken-by=nickiminaj&hl=en https://www.instagram.com/p/BVVHDxzBzTD/?taken-by=nickiminaj&hl=en https://www.instagram.com/p/BVWT3jghBP3/?taken-by=nickiminaj&hl=en

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Realities Of Being The Much Fitter Partner In The Relationship

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[caption id="attachment_833732" align="alignleft" width="1068"] Bigstockphoto.com/fat african man with measuring tape, the tape is not long enough[/caption] You can’t help who you fall in love with, and if you fall in love with someone who is slightly out of shape—or even severely out of shape—well, kudos because you clearly aren’t superficial. But when you start dating someone, you only know what it’s like to see them in short bursts of time. You get together once a week at first, then twice, then you throw in a couple sleepovers every week…but ultimately, you go home to your separate apartments and separate lives. When things are still casual, you may not know how your partner’s health choices could affect your relationship, but once things get serious and you live together, things change. The way you both eat, exercise and tend to your physical bodies plays a big role in the romantic relationship. Here are some realities of being the much fitter partner in the relationship. [caption id="attachment_714817" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Splitting groceries is unfair

You’re expected to split the cost of the groceries but the truth is that you certainly don’t split the eating of the groceries. You probably eat 25 percent of them and your partner eats the other 75 percent. Of course, you can’t say, “I should only have to pay for a quarter of these” because it makes you sound petty.       [caption id="attachment_715029" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Splitting groceries doesn’t even work

Another frustrating element of grocery shopping together is that you don’t want to buy the same things. At all. Your partner wants things from the snack isle. You don’t even visit the snack isle. You want things from the fresh produce section, and your partner just stands on the outskirts of it until you’re done picking out lettuce.   [caption id="attachment_616201" align="alignleft" width="451"] Corbis[/caption]

People hit on you, assuming you’re single

A lot of people can’t wrap their head around the fact that a fit person and a fat person would be together. So often, when you’re out with your man, other men hit on you, assuming he’s just your friend or a family member. You’ve had to politely put your hand on your partner to show others you’re taken, and you see the shocked looks on their faces. [caption id="attachment_616901" align="alignleft" width="378"] Corbis Images[/caption]

Your mom gives him health tips

Your parents try to give your partner health tips. They can’t help it—they’re parents! When they see someone making unhealthy choices, they have to say something. But it’s rather embarrassing for you since you, personally, would never be that blatant with your partner.       [caption id="attachment_716969" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

You can exercise or be together

You can either exercise or hang out with your partner, but you can’t do both at the same time because your partner doesn’t like to work out. It’s a shame because if he got into exercising, you could spend more quality time together. And you’re not going to give up your healthy habits to hang out with him.     [caption id="attachment_822937" align="alignleft" width="900"] Credit: Bigstock[/caption]

You feel odd around your fit male friends

You feel guilty simply hanging out with men who are in good shape. You worry that your partner will get jealous, or wonder if you ever wish he looked like those men. This situation is frustrating because you didn’t do anything wrong. You didn’t give the fit guys muscles just like you didn’t give your partner fat. [caption id="attachment_710970" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

People assume he’s wealthy

Some vicious people make comments, insinuating the only reason you must be with an overweight person is that he is wealthy or well-connected. They cannot fathom that you just like the guy for who he is.         [caption id="attachment_716430" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

You have to be delicate

You constantly need to choose your words carefully when giving your partner advice. You often have to bite your tongue when you feel the urge to say, “Don’t do that”, “You shouldn’t do that” or “You’re not allowed to do that.”       [caption id="attachment_618085" align="alignleft" width="422"] Corbis Images[/caption]

Sex positions can be limited

Your partner doesn’t have the stamina to carry out a lot of the sex positions you actually love. You spend a lot of time on top. Oh, and going again within an hour of the first time is out of the question.         [caption id="attachment_700835" align="alignleft" width="640"] Source: Jim Craigmyle/Corbis[/caption]

Sometimes he seems selfish

You find yourself angry at your partner sometimes because you know his poor health choices might result in health problems down in future. That means he won’t be in good shape to take care of your children, and may even pass away early, leaving you alone.

People make comments

People think it’s okay to say things to your partner like, “How did you land a woman like that?” When they say this, you think, “He landed me because he has a good personality. Unlike you.”         [caption id="attachment_704914" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]

You worry about having children

You worry about what it will be like to discipline your children and teach them about healthy living. You don’t want your partner’s unhealthy habits to rub off on your kids, but you also don’t want to fight with your partner constantly about what to feed your children.       [caption id="attachment_616273" align="alignleft" width="445"]Serious Question: What's The Dumbest Thing Your Husband Has Ever Done? Shutterstock[/caption]

Sometimes, you feel like his mom

Sometimes you feel more like your partner’s mother than his partner. You often ask him what he’s eating and what he’s doing, just to let him know somebody’s watching him so maybe he’ll make healthier choices.       [caption id="attachment_626809" align="alignleft" width="500"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

You worry things could get worse with age

Your partner may be able to get away with eating five burgers a week now, but in the future, that could mean heart disease, high cholesterol and a slew of other issues. Your partner’s eating habits have turned from endearing to worrisome. [caption id="attachment_614346" align="alignleft" width="420"]woman serious sad mother Shutterstock[/caption]

You hate his self-deprecating comments

It makes you sad when your partner calls himself fat or chubby. But you also cannot honestly say, “You’re not fat” which leaves you in an awkward situation.

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These Instagram Accounts Are Bad For You

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[caption id="attachment_833740" align="alignleft" width="1068"] Bigstockphoto.com/CHIANG MAI THAILAND - AUG 2 2016: A man holds Apple iPhone with Instagram application on the screen. Instagram is a photo-sharing app for smartphones.[/caption] I know your dirty secret; you look at weird Instagram pages. You can’t explain it, but for some reason, you find yourself drawn to Instagram accounts with content that has nothing to do with your life, and certainly doesn’t reflect the “Interests” you listed on your online dating profile. If someone walks in the room while you’re looking at these accounts, you throw your phone away from you like it’s on fire. But here’s another secret; we all do it! Certain accounts just have an allure. It could be because they inspire, uplift and motivate us. It could be that they feed into our craving for gossip. It could be that they make us feel better about ourselves through feeling sorry for somebody else. Either way, you need to be careful about the types of imagery you take in, because it can affect your well-being, and even your habits. These types of Instagram accounts are bad for you. [caption id="attachment_833742" align="alignleft" width="420"] Bigstockphoto.com/Young beautiful african american girl eating pizza in bedroom relaxing.[/caption]

Hot girls with pizza

Do not be fooled by the super slender girl who seems to only own crop tops and only eat the most decadent, cheesy, gooey fried food. This girl creates the illusion that we can all just be out there, grubbing on steak and eggs for breakfast and lobster mac and cheese for lunch and blue cheese burgers for dinner. In fact, the restaurants she visits probably pay her to take photos with their food, which is why she can afford to order it and take three bites. Which is exactly what she does.   [caption id="attachment_697857" align="alignleft" width="468"] Shutterstock.com[/caption]

Ladies of luxury

There seem to be a lot of women on Instagram whose only job is to stay in the fanciest hotels, shop at designer stores, ride on yachts and drink champagne all day. They can make you pretty damn jealous, and pretty damn resentful of your life. But if they never mention a job, show no sign of having a job, and aren’t royalty (as far as you know) let’s not forget this sad truth: on the other side of that camera is the wealthy man they probably don’t love who they married for this lifestyle. You are better off having your job, paying for your own drinks, and staying in your studio apartment because you’re free. [caption id="attachment_706469" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

The fitness models

It’s hard not to feel a little insecure about one’s body when you look at someone with 18-pack abs, legs for days, and a tush and tits that nearly touch the ceiling. But what we forget when looking at the Instagram accounts of fitness models is that being in perfect shape is their entire job. They spend all day at the gym. They cannot have a cocktail or a carb. They go to sleep at 8 pm and get up at 4 am to work out. Comparing your body to theirs, when your life is so different from their’s, is unreasonable.   [caption id="attachment_693104" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]

The wedding planners

Whether you’re single, in a new relationship, or have been with your live-in boyfriend for years, scrolling through the magical photos of a wedding planner’s Instagram account will make you believe you should be married right now. Even if you shouldn’t be. The idea that your partner is lagging on popping the question will sneak into your mind, even if you two are nowhere near ready to tie the knot.   [caption id="attachment_833744" align="alignleft" width="448"] Bigstockphoto.com/robot presidential candidate gives interview pop art retro style. Lies in politics. Political candidate. Technology and progress.[/caption]

The political memer

Pages full of political memes only tend to exaggerate matters. They can also dehumanize political leaders, enemies, political parties, and nearly anyone they touch. The more you’re exposed to these, the less you’re capable of making a balanced, informed decision. Find a news source you trust, and stick to that.         [caption id="attachment_607067" align="alignleft" width="378"] Shutterstock[/caption]

The text exposer

This person finds text message arguments, typos, secret text conversations and any text thread worthy of gossip and posts it on their page. But people who post text conversations tend to look for those that involve someone cheating on their spouse, being incredibly insulting, racist and sexist, or simply being dumb. These pages don’t leave you feeling very optimistic about the human condition.         [caption id="attachment_722629" align="alignleft" width="377"] Shutterstock[/caption]

The wanderlust

Don’t buy too much into the concept that the wanderlusts just spontaneously quit their jobs and started traveling the world with nothing but a backpack. Many of these have a trust fund, their parents are funding their trip, or they secretly saved for and planned this trip for five years. If you quit your job and tried to follow their path, you could quickly find that you didn’t get much further than a bus stop two states over, without a job or a penny.       [caption id="attachment_612908" align="alignleft" width="500"] Credit: Shutterstock[/caption]

The mixologist

Mixologists sure do have a way of making alcohol look sexy, fashionable, adventurous, exotic, international, shiny, and even healthy. But at the end of the day, alcohol is still just a toxin, no matter how much a mixologist dresses it up. Looking at these pages will just have you craving cocktails every day, and that’s not great for your body.       [caption id="attachment_699393" align="alignleft" width="420"] Food Network[/caption]

The heavy foodie

The heavy foodie out there is dining at some new, indulgent spot each night. Their meals often involve things like truffles and reductions and aged this and imported that. They sure can make you feel sad about your grilled chicken and broccoli. But let’s not forget that many of these foodies get to dine for free, in exchange for posting about and reviewing the food. They too could not afford to eat at the Chef’s table every night. Don’t start pursuing their lifestyle; it will leave you broke.   [caption id="attachment_701290" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock.com[/caption]

The serious dieter

As teenagers, we found blogs encouraging women to have eating disorders (they were typically written by other teenagers). All grown up, women may not feel they can blatantly promote an eating disorder. But there are plenty of Instagram models who claim to love nutrition and post photos of their food at each meal. However, they clearly suffer from some form of disordered eating considering their dinner consists of two broccoli florets, one small potato and exactly 2.5 measured ounces of salmon. Don’t follow their leads. These women are not nutrition experts and could probably benefit from seeing a nutritionist. [caption id="attachment_821712" align="alignleft" width="900"] Credit: Bigstock[/caption]

The diva quotes

You know the ones—the pages filled with fancy ecards covered in words like, “If you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best.” But these pages typically promote a diva, self-entitled mentality of someone who never reflects on their behavior, never takes responsibility for their actions, and never behaves like a grownup in any way. Here’s the thing nobody wants to say about people who post the “If you can’t handle me at my worst…” post: their best is also terrible. [caption id="attachment_625716" align="alignleft" width="378"] Corbis Images[/caption]

The professional clubber

I’m not sure how they manage it, but some women seem to go clubbing eight nights a week. Their entire Instagram page is about getting ready to go to the club, driving to the club, being at the club, getting post-club food, after partying, and waking up and recovering from clubbing…so they can get ready to go clubbing again. They can instill a serious sense of FOMO. But they are the ones missing out. If they’re clubbing every night, they likely aren’t building a career. Those clubs will not be there for them when they’re over the age of 35, but a career could be.     [caption id="attachment_701068" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]

The sponsored fashionista

There certainly are a lot of fabulous clothes on Instagram. Some women seem to don a new designer outfit twice a day! How do they do it? Well, they’re probably sponsored by those designers to wear their items on Instagram. In fact, they may not even get to keep the clothes—the designers may pay them a small fee to wear them, take the photo, and return them. So don’t be so hard on your worn-in jeans and sweater. They’ve been loyal to you.   [caption id="attachment_702725" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

The makeup masters

You may think you don’t care about makeup until you see the before and after pictures on the Instagram pages of makeup masters. These are those phenomenal makeup artists who can trim an inch off someone’s nose, simply through shading, and create an upper lip where there wasn’t one. Looking at this pages may inspire you to totally alter your face every morning, but you’ll quickly see it’s not sustainable. You can either have a different face each day, or sleep an extra two hours each morning. You’ll choose the sleep quickly. [caption id="attachment_716559" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]

The militant feminist

It’s great that there are Instagram pages promoting feminist ideals, but watch out for those who seem to trespass from promoting the rights of women to simply hating and sh*t-talking men. Pages that call themselves feminist pages but are really man-hating pages won’t leave you feeling empowered; they’ll leave you feeling sad and angry.

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She Girl Women Haters Club: 11 Ways Women Perpetuate Patriarchy

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Our conditioning has been conditioned, y'all. Patriarchy, misogyny and anti-women sentiments are prevalent in our world today and the world of the past that it would be unrealistic to believe it hasn't seeped into the minds of those it was meant to suppress: women. If we're not careful, we'll find ourselves repeating the very notions that have been used to keep us down. outgrowing gossip Bigstock

Shaming Women for Sexual Agency

From the minute women's bodies start developing, you better believe there's a woman telling her about the new responsibility that's fallen on this child's shoulders. She has to dress a certain way now, can't get too close to certain people now. If she violates any of these rules, she will, at best be labeled "fast" and at worst become the victim of some type of assault. While I certainly received some of these messages and understand that the women in my life were trying to protect me, a child should not feel responsible for deflecting the inappropriate attention from grown men who should have been taught better. [caption id="attachment_625833" align="aligncenter" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption] Shutterstock

Describing  Negative Qualities as Feminine

I remember I was telling one man how another, in the heat of the argument, hung up the phone in my face. It was a foul thing to do, yes. Instantly, the man I was telling the story to, sympathized with me but took it too far in mentioning that such an action was something a woman would do. What's even sadder is that, at the time, I completely agreed with him. [caption id="attachment_608196" align="aligncenter" width="431"]Hillary Clinton AP Photo/Charlie Neibergall[/caption] AP 

Claiming Women are Too Emotional to Be Leaders

We saw quite a bit of this during Hillary's attempt at the presidency. There were women who spoke to news media about her inability to run the country. And because of those misogynistic and patriarchial thoughts, the nation is going to sh*t. Thanks for that ladies...particularly White women.   [caption id="attachment_701571" align="aligncenter" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption] Shutterstock

Saying You Can't be Friends with Women

I've written before about how I can't trust women like this. Far too often negative traits are assigned to women and instead of us refusing to adopt these notions, we perpetuate them more than men, saying ridiculous things like "I'm just like a dude" to disassociate yourself from your own kind and provide value or worth in the eyes of men who hold similar anti-women views. [caption id="attachment_833418" align="aligncenter" width="1068"] Bigstock[/caption] Bigstock

Believing Two Grown Women Can't Exist Peacefully in the Same House

I know my mother used to say this to me whenever I made a smart comment, mostly around puberty, and then perhaps again as it was time for me to leave for college. The notion made sense to me when she said it but now...not so much. Why doesn't anyone say that about two grown men? Why don't we acknowledge that family members, regardless of gender are going to get on each other's nerves...a lot. And let's not pretend that mothers and sons don't have their own battles as they transition from boy to man or that married couples won't argue the house down on occasion. It's just a part of it. [caption id="attachment_833419" align="aligncenter" width="770"] Bigstock[/caption] Bigstock

Saying You Don't Want to See a Man Cry

I've been sooo guilty of this one. If I don't find something worthy of my tears-- And I cry A LOT--, I don't want to see a man cry about it. When you think about it, this belief, perpetuated by both men and women, contributes to so many men not knowing what the hell to do with their emotions. When the only emotion you feel comfortable and free to openly exhibit is anger, there's likely going to be a huge problem. [caption id="attachment_713716" align="aligncenter" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption] Shutterstock

Claiming a Woman Needs to Have Sex (with a man) to Adjust Her Attitude

I HATE when I hear people say this. D*ck is not a cure all. Yes, it can mellow you out. But so can a lot of other things that won't cause your mood and disposition to be dependent on another human being. Furthermore, if that penis is attached to the wrong person, it can just end up causing more severe problems down the road. [caption id="attachment_833118" align="aligncenter" width="1068"] Bigstockphoto.com/Beautiful young Afro American couple is making selfie using a smart phone and smiling while lying in bed at home[/caption] Bigstock

Believing having a Man will Make you Happy

I've written about this too. If we really thought about this, we'd admit that men sure as hell don't hold the keys to happiness. If your happiness depends on the presence of another person, man, woman, or child, there's a good chance you won't be able to sustain it once that person leaves or disappoints you. True happiness is something you build yourself. One “Special” Friend Bigstock

Calling Arbitrary Activities Gay

I don't feel sorry for men all that often. Because they live with way too much privilege. But hearing women describe certain behaviors or even attire (see Romphim) as gay or non-masculine makes me sad. One, because the confines in which men have to live are so narrow. Limiting human expression in that way and making statements about someone's sexuality with behaviors that have nothing to do with sex is a trick of the machisimo. [caption id="attachment_626072" align="aligncenter" width="460"] Corbis[/caption] Corbis

Saying you Want to have a Boy because Girls are "too hard."

Are girls really too hard? Or is this just something you've heard and just continue to repeat? I'm not here to bash either sex, but seriously with the way boys mature and the trouble they find themselves in, you might run into some challenges with a son as well. Let's just admit that raising any child is no walk in the park. Bigstock

Will let a man disrespect you for years but will cut your best friend off in a heartbeat.

Y'all we all know women or have been women who let some dude curse us out, cheat on us, challenge our voice and authority, not be supportive of our dreams and goals but cut your good girlfriend out of your life completely for something trivial. Fact is, we don't even hold men accountable. As forgiving as we can be, we can also be unncessarily ruthless to the people who are really there to ride for us.

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Is This Petty? He Still Lives With His Ex

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When it comes to dating someone who is estranged from their husband or wife but not divorced, many of us would say that until the fat lady sings, that’s not a healthy situation to enter into. We just wouldn’t be comfortable dating someone still married, even if unhappily. Despite the efforts made to cut ties, until they’re fully cut, there’s a chance for reconciliation, and there’s also a chance for drama. No good.

But what about dating someone who isn’t married, however, shares a space with someone they were romantically involved with for some time? Keyword: were. Would you be comfortable being with a man who still lived with their ex?

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This is based on a woman I know who has been more than ok with dating a guy who still lives with his former longtime girlfriend. They’ve been getting closer over the last few months, but if they want to spend quality time together, they have to go to her place. When they want to hang out in general, he has to leave the woman he’s shared so much with, aside from a ritzy apartment, to go hang out with his new chick, only to return home to his old one. And when she wants to hang out with his friends, they’re not necessarily sure how to act around her because they’re used to and friendly with his ex. Awkward.

Still, plans to move. He has allegedly been looking around for apartments so that he can have a fresh start. However, his living situation with his ex hasn’t been contentious. They get along well. Sometimes she shares meals that she’s cooked with him, and it’s an overall peaceful situation. If it were a negative one, he would feel more of a fire under his behind to get up, get out and get moving, but when things are good, what’s the rush?

While his new girlfriend may be rolling with the punches, I thought their situation was interesting enough to share. It’s not a rare one, though.

There are women who date guys who live with exes who are still emotionally attached. One woman wrote in to Glamour about a guy she was interested in dating who had a roommate/ex tagging him in posts on social media and listing herself as “In a Relationship” with him on Facebook.

There have been women who’ve waited impatiently for their boyfriends to move out of a home they share with their ex-wives:

How long am I supposed to sit around and wait for him to move out? It’s been a year and three months since we started dating. I really like him. Honestly, I love him and he knows that. We have great times together, but the only problem is him leaving his situation. At times I get frustrated because I want to be able to go to his house and enjoy those moments together. I don’t consider him my boyfriend, only because I don’t feel comfortable saying that he is because of his living arrangement. I’m scared that after all the time I have invested in him, he might one day just say that he is all set and wants to work on things with her. I know this is a ramble, but I’m just lost and confused.

There are also women who date men who live with exes who seemingly have moved on and have their own new relationship to tend to. So that living situation should be no big deal, right? Wrong.

In the summer of 2011 I met a man who I have been seeing ever since. We are madly in love with each other. My kids love him too. But, he still lives with his ex wife, mainly because he cant afford to move out. They have a teenage son. I am often very insecure although he tells me its just a convenient living arrangement. His ex wife also has a new boyfriend. Is there anyone out there in this same situation? How do you cope with it? I find it so difficult.

The truth is, the last lady is right — this is a very difficult situation. As someone trying to survive in New York City, I think it’s understandable for someone to live with whoever they need to if they can’t afford to move out, especially if they were living with them before entering into a new relationship. (You can’t get away with introducing this living situation after you start dating someone new.) But there always needs to be a plan of action in order for someone entering the situation to not feel like they’re being left in the dark or played for a fool. You can work with a temporary situation, but one that seems unending, that feels uncertain and at times, inappropriate? You’re setting yourself up for a headache — and to end up feeling like a third wheel in your own relationship…

But as always, that’s just my opinion. What say you? Is it not a big deal if a guy you’re interested in lives with his ex-girlfriend or ex-wife?

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Karrueche Tran Granted 5-Year Restraining Order Against Chris Brown

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In February, Karrueche Tran was granted a restraining order that required Chris Brown stay 100 yards away from her, her mom, and her brother. Yesterday, a judge ruled that the restraining order stay in place for the next five years.

According to TMZ, during in-person testimony in court yesterday, Karrueche told a judge Chris Brown became aggressive after they broke up, demanding she return diamond rings he’d bought for her, and when she refused he started making threats.

“Karrueche explained that in text messages between herself and Chris post-breakup, he would say things like ‘I’m not being nice to you no more, if I see you out in public again and I’m there I will make you hate me even more, don’t be anywhere I’m out in public, I’m going to ban you from all events,'” TMZ reported.

“She claims he also texted her more violent threats like … ‘I can get my money back and I’m tired of playing games’ as well as ‘B-tch I will beat the sh-t out of you’ and ‘I promise you I will make your life hell.'”

Sadly, Karrueche also reportedly testified that Chris had beaten in the past.

Chris didn’t appear in court and a judge refused to let him call in to the hearing by phone. His attorney, David Gammill, however, attempted to discredit Karreuche’s claims, arguing she taunted Chris about the rings and never reported any of his violent behavior to the authorities. Thankfully, that argument was a moot point in the judge’s eyes and Karrueche’s restraining order still stands.

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Chance The Father: Chance The Rapper’s Cutest Daddy-Daughter Moments

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Father's Day is on Sunday, and instead of trying to find a whole list of famous fathers to celebrate, I wanted to put the spotlight on one amazing father in particular, and that's Chance the Rapper. [caption id="attachment_833866" align="aligncenter" width="1068"]Chance the rapper daughter Kensli Getty[/caption] If you follow Chance on social media, then you know what I'm talking about. If you don't, then the long and short of it is that Chancelor Bennett is the father of a beautiful little lady named Kensli. For a while, he kept Kensli out of public view, but in December of last year, decided to post a picture of her on Instagram. Ever since then, a majority of his posts have been about her: time spent with her, family outings with her mother, Kirsten, missing her, her fashion sense, her edges -- he loves her to the ends of the earth and back and isn't afraid to say it. And that's yet another reason (aside from his music and his philanthropic efforts, specifically in Chicago) we love him. Check out a few of our favorite daddy-daughter moments featuring the rapper and his baby girl. https://www.instagram.com/p/BOs3t0hhhdM/?taken-by=chancetherapper&hl=en https://www.instagram.com/p/BOs3-bnBM9n/?taken-by=chancetherapper&hl=en https://www.instagram.com/p/BOs5nRzhL1_/?taken-by=chancetherapper&hl=en https://www.instagram.com/p/BQEFRwpAY_F/?taken-by=chancetherapper&hl=en https://www.instagram.com/p/BQLWjnWBARa/?taken-by=chancetherapper&hl=en https://www.instagram.com/p/BQWQbHahmuK/?taken-by=chancetherapper&hl=en https://www.instagram.com/p/BQgFP5sBe_G/?taken-by=chancetherapper&hl=en https://www.instagram.com/p/BQoNM-1jtaw/?taken-by=chancetherapper&hl=en https://www.instagram.com/p/BSQ7wy2jUQl/?taken-by=chancetherapper&hl=en https://www.instagram.com/p/BSyfgJTDT8K/?taken-by=chancetherapper&hl=en https://www.instagram.com/p/BSznx1cDjht/?taken-by=chancetherapper&hl=en https://www.instagram.com/p/BTEc_zWDN7m/?taken-by=chancetherapper&hl=en https://www.instagram.com/p/BT5ABr5DpGx/?taken-by=chancetherapper&hl=en https://www.instagram.com/p/BUmKr67jsvO/?taken-by=chancetherapper&hl=en https://www.instagram.com/p/BVQReexDbwK/?taken-by=chancetherapper&hl=en

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So Kenya Moore Just Got Married In St. Lucia

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Kenya Moore Married

Kenya Moore’s love life has been a source of great interest and speculation ever since she joined “Real Housewives of Atlanta” and her fake relationship with Walter was exposed. But now the 46-year-old former pageant queen has a real man in her life — in fact, she has a husband.

According to People, the reality star jumped the broom in St. Lucia last week in an intimate beach ceremony with family and friends. And she told the magazine of being a newlywed:

“I’m just ecstatic. This man is the love of my life and I’m so happy to begin our lives together as husband and wife.”

So who is this man? Well, we don’t really know anything about him except that he’s a businessman she met one year ago and began dating a few months after. While his secret identity may raise a few eyebrows, I think Kenya may have finally learned its best to keep her relationships — and the identities of the men she’s with — private for as long as she can.

And while there are hints of what may have been her wedding getaway location on Intsagram, the photo captions don’t let on to any nuptials,and Kenya even shut off commenting on her pictures, which one could assume is so she can fully bask in her new marital bliss. We didn’t miss the fact that there are two champagne classes, two pairs of sunglasses, and two forks on that plate in the photo below however.

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With the 10th season of RHOA beginning to film soon, I’d be quite surprised if Kenya kept her mystery man a secret once the cameras start rolling. This news may actually give fans an even bigger reason to tune in. Well this, and the news that NeNe Leakes is back.

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Serious Question: Why Do You Care More About Mother’s Day Than Father’s Day?

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Father’s Day is approaching and I almost forgot about it. Before you judge me, know that my husband almost forgot as well. A few weeks ago, when discussing dates for a certain event, he innocently asked, “Oh, Father’s Day is that day?” Instead of using that question to fish for gifts like I probably would, he genuinely seemed surprised.

Maybe it’s because he truly doesn’t care about that day or he doesn’t expect much out of it, but this Sunday will be the third Father’s Day for my husband, and his attitude has been the same about it every year — indifferent.

I remember being so excited to celebrate his first Father’s Day. I ordered a customized frame with our daughter’s name engraved at the top and included a picture of him holding her at just 10 days old. Oh and a card. Can’t forget the card.

He loved the gift and brunch that we had that day. I think the card could have been omitted as he read it and then put it back in the envelope to never be seen again (as he does with most cards), but I thought it was a nice touch. Overall, he seemed to enjoy his day, but there was no true excitement. This could be due to his love languages (none of which include gift giving or words of affirmation) or to the fact that he, like many people, doesn’t consider Father’s Day to be much to fuss over.

According to an article, “Why Mother’s Day Beats Father’s Day For Both Spending and Deals” from TheStreet.com, The National Retail Federation estimated that consumers would spend over $20 billion on Mother’s Day while only $14.3 billion was spent on Father’s Day last year. A survey found that 46 percent of people planned to buy a gift for mom for Mother’s Day as opposed to 30 percent for dad for Father’s Day.

Why is this?

The article goes on to say that some participants revealed that they feel guilty if they don’t buy a gift for Mother’s Day, but the same guilt isn’t necessarily felt for or from dad.

Is the way we treat these man-made holidays a reflection of how differently we treat our parents? Is it a personal decision or one put upon us by society? Is it that most people are truly closer to their mom, whether they were raised solely by her or due to a mother’s innate nurturing characteristics, so we place more value on Mother’s Day? Is it because of the number of people who didn’t have a good relationship with their fathers, or didn’t have one at all? It could be many things.

Now that I’m a mom, I better understand the work that it takes to be a great mom and how undervalued mothers can often feel. Maybe that’s why I told my husband we needed to get both of our moms a gorgeous bouquet of flowers this year, as opposed to the usual cards. But I realized that we aren’t in the habit of giving anything to our fathers for Father’s Day. I don’t really think they mind, but now that think about it, I do.

However, Mother’s Day and Father’s Day shouldn’t be the only days in the year that we show appreciation to people who have given us life or stepped into that role. Maybe this year we’ll at least acknowledge the special men in our lives by doing more than just giving them a little card and a phone call.

But we will save the ties for the future — no need for them to go to waste.

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Fitness Fridays: Dominique Dawes On Doing Gymnastics With Her Kids, Her Love Of Hiking National Park Trails

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By Nneka Samuel

Three-time Olympian. President of the Women’s Sports Foundation. Broadway actress. Co-chair of the President’s Council on Fitness, Sports and Nutrition. Star of Prince’s 1996 music video, “Betcha By Golly, Wow” (a personal fave). Motivational speaker. History maker.

Dominique Dawes

The long list of triumphant feats, titles and overall awesomeness worthy of now retired gymnast Dominique Dawes’ nickname, Awesome Dawesome, is seemingly never-ending. But the greatest, most important title she has ever held is that of mom.

Now a stay-at-home mother of two precious daughters, Kateri, three-and-a-half, and Quinn, nearly two, Dominique takes being her children’s first teacher very seriously. And though Dominique’s daughters aren’t quite old enough to fully understand the impact of her latest advocacy endeavor, they one day will. Dawes teamed up with the National Park Foundation’s (the philanthropic partner of the National Park Service) Parks 101 series. NPF’s President Will Shafroth referred to Dawes as an obvious partner because she is “incredibly energetic and passionate” and “authentically enthusiastic.”

The Parks 101 series is an ongoing celebration meant to encourage the exploration of lesser-known stories of countrywide, national landmarks, and Dominique partook in a day’s worth of Washington, D.C. site visits with tours led by park rangers. Organized around the theme of equality and justice, she went to the Martin Luther King, Jr. Memorial, Belmont-Paul Women’s Equality National Monument and the Frederick Douglass National Historic Site – all a stone’s throw away from her hometown of Silver Spring, Maryland.

Read on to learn more about Dawes’ involvement with the National Park Foundation, how she keeps in shape and whether or not her children will be future gymnasts.

MadameNoire: Why did you partner with the NPF? 

Dominique Dawes: As a mother, I am my two young daughters’ first teacher in life. And what a wonderful way to teach kids through their experience in visiting the national parks. Not just in the nation’s capital, but throughout the U.S. And it’s interesting because as I was preparing to come to these different parks in D.C., I was thinking, what has my experience been at national parks? And it’s amazing how many spectacular sites I’ve seen since I’ve been married these last four years with my husband and also with my daughters. Both of our baby moons – we actually chose to go to national parks. We actually went to Skyline Drive in Shenandoah. For my 35th birthday, I actually hiked Old Rag with my coach. That was a hard workout. I was sore after that. Even for our honeymoon, we spent much time out in the northwest in Oregon, going to Crater Lake and Multnomah Falls. Went to Ecola National Park, a part of Canon Beach and went to Alaska and saw Denali. I never thought I was like the outdoorsy type and into parks until I actually took some time and thought about these amazing memories and experiences that I’ve had with my husband and with my family.

How will you share this with your children? 

When [my kids] get older, my husband and I definitely look forward to sharing our country’s history, our country’s culture and all those beautiful natural resources we have through all of these national parks. People know the name of the Everglades or Yellowstone, the big parks are the ones people really talk about. It’s the lesser-known ones that we want people to explore and go visit and have amazing memories with their families. You can go to findyourpark.com to actually look around and find parks that are within driving distance to you and your family and go visit those.

What would you say to people of color who aren’t visiting national parks and don’t really think about them? 

I was aware of [the lack of diversity] but I will say from my experience of going to parks, I don’t look around and notice it so much. My thing is as a family with two young daughters, we look for things that are going to be affordable and that will be able to build lasting memories. And that’s what I say to minority families that are maybe not sold on or haven’t thought of visiting their national parks, to think of those things. With my husband and I with two toddlers, we are not trying to spend a great deal of money to have an experience with our toddlers. National parks are usually free of charge, or there’s a small donation. I would encourage families to look into those experiences because affordable and lasting memories – those are two key things that families are always looking for these days.

What fitness activities do you do with your children? 

I’m always looking for positive and engaging activities with my young girls and not ones that I’m just sitting and we’re stagnant, but ones where we’re moving and we’re being active. And even though that  doesn’t compare to let’s say running a marathon or training for an Olympics, we are active. We’re walking around. And that’s the experience that you can get at many of our nation’s parks and many of the national parks out there. You can go on a wonderful hike or just be able to see beautiful sites. So you’re being active and you’re also seeing amazing sites. I think it does really tie into physical fitness a great deal. Like I mentioned earlier, when I turned 35 and hiked Old Rag, that was a serious workout. All the sweating I endured for those many hours I remember was a great way to get in shape and stay in shape.

I used to hike weekly with my coach but I am a little skittish when it comes to animals. I’m horrible. So I’m not necessarily hiking the trails that I used to with my coach because she would try to pull me out of my comfort zone. But I will say with my young girls, they’re pretty young, so we’re not taking them to national, historical parks on a regular basis. But recently, I had a speaking engagement in Sioux Falls and my husband and two daughters traveled there with me. We saw the beautiful Falls and then drove across the border into Minnesota and went and visited Pikesville National, which took me back to my Native American roots. So that was a wonderful experience for my husband and I. I don’t know what my girls took away from it other than they were in the car with mommy and daddy. But that’s just a way to be active with my kids and to get a little fitness at the same time.

Tell us about being co-chair of the President’s Council on Fitness, Sports and Nutrition.

I loved being one of the leaders there for a good six and a half years and working with Drew Brees and Michelle Obama, a part of her Let’s Move initiative. It was wonderful to not just talk the talk but also walk the walk, and to go to schools or to go to events or be at the White House and not be there solely to give a speech, but to be active with the young people that they would bring in. I would love that opportunity again.

Are your kids involved in sports?

I would assume that it would be too early [to get my kids involved] under the age of six years old, but no, my three and a half year old, Kateri, and my nearly two-year-old, Quinn, we do open gymnastics classes multiple times a week. Just open for them to play. Kateri is already in a structured gymnastics class at my coach’s gym in Gaithersburg, Maryland. I take her once a week and she has a blast when she chooses to listen and when she choose to sit in the class. She, many times, runs out in the waiting room and hangs out with me.

And then on the weekends, my husband and I have a little soccer class that we have them in. It’s really because I’m home all day with the kids, and it will drive you nuts if you stay home, inside, with two very active kids. So from the start of the morning, I’ve never felt like I’ve had to exert so much energy in my life, even training for Olympics. But I am on the go with these two girls, going to a nature center in my neighborhood, walking trails, going to the park, doing these little classes, which are fun. I do love to share with people and say that when you become a parent and you choose to spend a great deal of time and make that sacrifice and commitment to be home with your kid, if you have the ability to do so, I would highly recommend people to do that. Because then you start choosing to see life through the eyes of a child and you start seeing how beautiful life is, how appreciative we are and how a lot of the little things that we would stress over really are not that important. Each and every day, though, it’s a challenge and I love complaining to my husband about how hard it is. But it is truly a joy being at home with these two little angels.

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Hill Harper Adopted A Son: “I Really Felt Like It Was God Telling Me To Do It”

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First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage, right? That’s what Hill Harper thought for most of his life as well, which is why the single actor had yet to become a dad. But when a friend encouraged Harper to look into single parent adoption and a stroke of fate landed him in the path of a mother who was looking for adoptive parents, Harper found himself becoming a single father at 51.

“I always thought I was going to get married, have my own kids and I was going to adopt,” Harper told Good Morning America today. “I had talked about adopting and I had talked about wanting to be this dad, and she said, ‘You’re going to be a great dad but I think you’re waiting too long. You may get to a point where you’ll decide you’re not going to do it. Even though you’re not married, why can’t you just be a dad now?’”

Although Harper took his friend’s advice and spoke with an adoption person she knew in the summer of 2015, he said by the end of learning the process he told the guy, “I’m just not ready. I’m not there.”

The universe seemed to have other plans, however.

“[F]ast-forward to right before Thanksgiving of that year, I get a call from him,” Harper explained. “I was shooting a show called ‘Limitless’ at the time. I was in my dressing room and I didn’t know why he was calling me. He says, ‘There’s a wonderful young woman who is having a son in three weeks. Would you be interested in adopting him?’”

Although Harper was initially caught off guard, once he talked to the birth mother, his decision was solidified.

“I really felt like it was God telling me to do it,” he told People magazine. “And I’m so glad that he chose me, and [Pierce’s mom] and God and the universe chose me.”

Pierce, his son, was born in December 2015 and Harper was right there in the delivery room and even cut the umbilical cord.

“I was so scared. I think because it was such a huge decision. But looking back now, all the fears I had were ridiculously small compared to the joy of having him in my life and having the opportunity to be a father…[Adopting Pierce] was the greatest decision I’ve ever made and I’ve never been happier.”

Pierce is now 18 months old and slowly making his debut on the actor’s Instagram, proving his dad’s point that he loves music as you can see in the video below.

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“I never felt I could love this deeply,” Harper said. “I love him and he’s my son.”

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“You Can Have Your Cake And Eat It Too:” Jessie Williams Calls BS On The Idea You Can’t Be Famous And Woke

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Jessie Williams is synonymous with the term #WokeBae, but one of the reasons fans go so crazy over the “Grey’s Anatomy” actor is because he’s truly one in a million. In a sea of famous folks with a platform to spark meaningful change, he’s one of few who will actually stick his neck out to speak out on societal ills and deal with the consequences later. And in his mind, that really shouldn’t be that rare of a thing.

“You can have your cake and eat it too,” the 35 year old told GQ, speaking on the idea that only certain people can be activists or speak on politics. “You can walk and chew gum at the same time.”

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Though he does acknowledge when it comes to celebrities — and social media — “You can definitely f-ck things up,” he adds, “[I]t’s feeble minded to say that just because you’re a basketball player you can’t care that your tax dollars go to an organized patrol force that kills people. We absolutely can do both—give me a break.”

Unlike many of his peers, social activism has always been a part of Williams’ life, which may be why he’s also less afraid to take a stance than some of his counterparts.

“I’m more comfortable around social-justice work,” he told the mag. “I’ve been doing it much longer, and it means more to me.”

But in the same way that acting doesn’t limit his willingness to speak out, Williams is very cognizant of spending as much time honing his craft as he does holding a light up to social injustices.

“I need both to sustain a balanced life. One is more dire and academic. And the other is an absolutely necessary creative outlet for me to stay sane.”

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Offensive Ways Gyms Get Your Business

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[caption id="attachment_833752" align="alignleft" width="1068"] Bigstockphoto.com/dip ring young man and african american woman relaxed after workout at gym dipping exercise[/caption] The business of health can be a bit awkward. It’s easy to forget that doctors, dentists and just about any other professional whose job is to keep you alive and healthy still needs to make a living. Your gynecologist or dental hygienist may not be too pushy about getting you in for a visit because, well, they’re making bank either way. But gyms and their employees rely on selling those packages, signing those new members and getting butts in their cycling classes in order to be profitable. That’s why gyms—places that should make you feel welcome and encouraged—can sometimes feel intimidating, frightening, and downright insulting. Some gyms, rather than applaud you for even making the effort of showing up, humiliate you into showing up more, or even frighten you into buying more. Here are offensive ways gyms get your business. [caption id="attachment_624839" align="alignleft" width="426"] Corbis[/caption]

Telling you you’re worth it

You’re worth a hot body. You’re worth attention. You’re worth this $130 a month gym membership. When gyms use this language, they’re playing on reverse psychology. They’re essentially implying that if you don’t go for their program, that you do not believe you are worth much. But maybe going to the $30 a month gym and saving for a down payment on a house is your way of proving to yourself you’re worth something.   [caption id="attachment_706231" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Bringing up bikini season

When gyms bring up impending bikini season, they take what was a fun time you were looking forward to—a time filled with imagery of playing in the ocean and barbecuing with friends around a pool—and turn it into something you’re dreading. They imply summer is about nothing but looking hot in a bikini and if you don’t, then your summer is a waste.     [caption id="attachment_625907" align="alignleft" width="500"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Body analysis

Ah the old body analysis. This is when a gym employee weighs you, measures you and does a few other tricks to let you know you are terribly out of shape. They spit numbers at you to make you feel like, if you don’t make some changes, you could drop dead at any minute. Heck, you didn’t even know you were fat but apparently, you are! [caption id="attachment_616201" align="alignleft" width="451"] Corbis[/caption]

Referral programs

If you have a friend who is pushing you to join her gym, that’s probably because her gym offered her a year free membership or some perk to bring in friends. That’s insulting because that gym has turned your good buddy into an annoying sales person.         [caption id="attachment_709851" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Reminding you of holiday eating

When you get back in the city after the holidays, after visiting friends and eating a-plenty, every gym has large signs reminding you of the gravy and fruitcake you consumed. They may make some clever comment about how you’re turning into Santa Claus himself. Thanks for turning our lovely holiday memories into shame.         [caption id="attachment_701312" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Putting machines in windows

Some gyms line up their machines in the front windows of their business. If you look closely, you’ll swear they put a spotlight on each treadmill. This is to put their members on display and make people passing by feel bad that they aren’t working out right now. If you join the gym then you too could be a part of the guild display.       [caption id="attachment_699584" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Scare tactics

What was meant to be a pleasant meet and greet with a gym employee turns into an interrogation. The employee may ask you things like, “Do you want to live to be 50? Do you want to be around when your children graduate high school? Do you want your partner to remain sexually interested in you?”         [caption id="attachment_822931" align="alignleft" width="900"] Credit: Bigstock[/caption]

Strutting their hottest trainers

Of course, the super hot, former bodybuilder trainer with the fake tan and perky breasts gives you the gym tour. Subtext: “You could look like me!” What the gym doesn’t mention is that that trainer didn’t get that way by using the treadmill three times a week. She hasn’t eaten a carb in a decade and she works out for four hours a day. So, you probably don’t look like her if you sign up. [caption id="attachment_822933" align="alignleft" width="900"] Credit: Bigstock[/caption]

Having different membership levels

Some gyms have membership “levels” that come with things like access to masseuses and the super-secret sauna…but only once you’ve purchased 50 personal trainer sessions and referred 10 friends. It’s the cool kids in high school all over again, leaving you out of their exclusive club. [caption id="attachment_822936" align="alignleft" width="900"] Credit: Bigstock[/caption]

Odd inspirational quotes

Some gyms post some rather pompous quotes around the gym. These quotes may say things like, “Rome wasn’t built in a day” and “Fear has two meanings: Forget everything and run or Face everything and rise.” You’re just trying to lose five pounds. You’re not trying to build Rome, and if you get off the treadmill, it’s not because you are afraid—it’s because your kid needs to be picked up from school. Get over yourself, gym. [caption id="attachment_621479" align="alignleft" width="419"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Suggesting you’re incapable

The second you hesitate, the gym employee says, “Well if you don’t think you can handle it…” or “If you don’t think you’re ready….” Excuse me? Being ready to work out five days a week and being willing to pay $1,500 for the year to do so are two different things. Don’t confuse the two, gym employee.       [caption id="attachment_707277" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Posting before and after pictures

Some gyms get the permission of their clients to post their before and after photos around the building. They, naturally, choose the clients who saw the most drastic results. But this is another type of scare tactic; it’s like saying, “Look how this person was without our gym in their life. That could be you.”             [caption id="attachment_619732" align="alignleft" width="500"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Suggesting you aren’t committed

“If you took your fitness seriously, you’d buy this package” or “People who actually want results are taking this class.” In other words you, the person who is at the gym every morning bright and early to get in her elliptical time before work, don’t take your fitness seriously. Your attempt is a joke. [caption id="attachment_717848" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Threatening to take the deal away

When a gym tries to tell you this signing deal will only last today, they are suggesting you cannot read. They’re insinuating you cannot read their adds, that have been promoting this same deal every day for years. They’re saying you are incapable of deciphering their ads on billboards, in the newspaper, on bus benches, and all over the gym walls. You know this deal isn’t going anywhere.     [caption id="attachment_695320" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Insisting contracts keep you committed

Many gyms force you to sign a multi-month or even year-long contract, stating that it’s the only way you’ll be motivated to go to the gym. Right. Sure. Okay. If you hand them $2,000, it’s for your good. Uh-uh.

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