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3 Products And $30 Are All You Need To Get Curls Like Yara Shahidi

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Tired of spending all the coins on all the products and still not getting all those beautiful, stretched, non-crunchy curls you were promised? Perhaps Yara Shahidi can help. I know I was personally inspired by the fact that she only uses three products to get those head-turning curls of hers and the fact that I already own one of them and can afford the other two has me tempted to post-pone this article and head to the beauty supply right now.

Shahidi, whom Byrdie just dubbed “Hollywood’s most impressive teenager” in their interview with her, shared all types of beauty secrets that keep her 17-year-old skin acne-free and those curls poppin’ all day long. And, unsurprisingly, the half Iranian-American, half African-American actress’s regimen is as low-key as her celebrity.

“I have always been very natural with my hair,” Shahidi told the site. “It really wasn’t until the request of some acting jobs I had to straighten it. What I realized is just how damaging heat is. While it does give you really cool options and allows you to do different takes on hairstyles, I had to deal with a lot of heat damage from straightening my hair or curling my hair with heat.

“So, last year, last summer, I cut off a total of six inches to just help get rid of the heat damage. In many ways, I’ve been transitioning ever since then. Now that I’m in this fantastic place, where I’ve been heat-free for over a year (other than a light diffusing of my hair after the shower). I’ve been able to have so much fun with it.”

During the past year of transitioning, Shahidi was able to find what really works for her mane, and it turns out it doesn’t take a whole lot of work.

“Almond oil, a great gel, and deep conditioners are all fantastic for curly hair like mine. I love the Mielle Deep Conditioner ($14) and Almond Oil ($13). I think those really do help with my hair. And then EcoStyler is a $3 gel that I swear by because it’s not always about the most expensive product, but the most efficient.

“It’s just important to make sure you treat your body right. Whether it’s with almond oil or vitamin D or coconut oil—whatever it may be. Making sure that your products don’t have too many chemicals in them is part of caring for your body.”

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Serena Williams Is “20 Weeks” (I.E. Pregnant)

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Serena Williams Pregnant

You could say every year since Serena Williams first stepped onto the court has been her year, given the tennis pro’s record of athletic accomplishments, but when it comes to 2017, this just might be her biggest year of personal triumphs yet.

Just a few days before the new year, we found out Serena was engaged to Reddit co-founder Alexis Ohanian, and now the two have announced they’re expecting their first child.

Serena just broke the news with a snapchat photo of her in a yellow bathing suit missing those notorious abs of hers with text that read “20 weeks.”

So far, the couple who also used social media to announce their engagement hasn’t put out an official statement on the news but we’re 99.99999% sure a baby is on the way in four months. That would mean Serena, 35, was already with child when Alexis put a ring on it and she told the world she would soon be Mrs. Ohanian December 29. Congrats to these two on this new news!

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Natalie Nunn And Husband Jacob Payne Welcome A Baby Girl!

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Months ago, we reported about Natalie Nunn’s pregnancy after a devastating miscarriage. And this past weekend, her daughter made her debut into the world. Natalie Nunn and her husband Jacob Payne welcomed their first child into the world.

Natalie shared the news on both Twitter and Instagram.

Before the delivery, Natalie shared that their baby girl was nearly a week past due.


The very next day, on Instagram, she wrote about the contractions she was experiencing and having a natural child birth.


And she shared even more good news on Twitter.


Congratulations to Natalie and Jacob! We can’t wait to see their little bundle.

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Eating Pitfalls Of Busy People

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[caption id="attachment_826698" align="alignleft" width="1068"] Bigstockphoto.com/Isolated studio shot of an African American businesswoman holding a pear at arms length with a disgusted look on her face.[/caption] We’re all prone to letting healthy eating habits slip when we’re busy. You don’t want to be bothered with nutrition labels and calorie counts when you’re creating an empire and generally being a boss! The problem is that if you don’t worry about those things now, then once your empire is fully up and running, and your cup runneth over with success, your jeans may also runneth over with love handles. Then you’ll be busy hitting the gym extra hard. See, it’s all about balance. Pay a little attention to your eating habits every day, and you don’t need to dedicate all of your attention to them thirty pounds from now. And remember, it’s much easier to stay in shape than to get in shape. With that in mind, here are eating pitfalls of busy people that you should avoid. [caption id="attachment_715029" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Eating processed foods

If it comes in packaging, you probably shouldn’t eat it. Packaged foods mascaraed as the busy person’s best friend. Microwavable meals, pre-made trail mix…These brands tend to make money by loading their food with empty calories.       [caption id="attachment_713127" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Eating calorie-sorted snacks

Little bags of pretzels and cookies that boast their 100-calorie content are easy to carry in your bag, but they forget to mention one thing; they have no nutrition. In other words, they do not fill you up at all and leave you reaching for more.       [caption id="attachment_826700" align="alignleft" width="420"] Plastic containers for food on wooden background[/caption]

Failing to invest in Tupperware

How are you supposed to make lunch at home if you don’t have the proper Tupperware to put it in? When you realize all you have is one, flimsy little piece, you’ll give up and order delivery. Invest in good Tupperware that can go in the microwave, has different compartments, features venting lids and all.     [caption id="attachment_719139" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Forgetting to make time to eat

You’ve planned your morning yoga, your time to open emails, your 10 am conference call, your 11 am conference call, your 12:30 presentation, your 1:30 meeting and…oops, you forgot to make time to eat! That means you scarf down something that can be scarfed down (like a burrito or burger) between meetings. Treat eating like a meeting: give it at least a 30-minute window.     [caption id="attachment_704420" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Eating at the restaurant/bar/meeting place

If you take a lot of meetings at restaurants, hotel lobbies, bars and the like, it’s easy to think, “I’ll just save time by eating there.” But you won’t always find the healthiest options here. If this is how you make time to eat, then choose healthy spots for your meetings.     [caption id="attachment_715041" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Forgetting to make time to grocery shop

This, like eating, should be on your calendar—it should get its own time slot. Your good intentions to make lunch at home go out the window when you don’t have food with which to make that lunch. Pick a time—maybe Sunday afternoon—and say that’s when you grocery shop. Don’t let anything get in the way.     [caption id="attachment_707615" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Failing to keep healthy snacks in the car

If you find yourself stuck in traffic or driving between meetings and starving, what do you do? You go through a drive-through. That’s all you have time for! How about you save even more time by keeping some protein-rich nuts in your center divider.     [caption id="attachment_700061" align="alignleft" width="419"] Kale chips. Photo: Shutterstock.com[/caption]

Failing to keep healthy snacks in your bag

You never know when a meeting will run an hour over, leaving your stomach grumbling in your chair. There are, of course, cookies and donuts on the conference table. If you’re smart, there will be healthy snacks in your purse.       [caption id="attachment_703373" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Buying coffee at a coffee shop

First off, this is expensive. But second, when you buy coffee at a coffee shop, you end up adding the muffin or the bagel. Make coffee in your own kitchen where you aren’t surrounded by pastries.         [caption id="attachment_719293" align="alignleft" width="417"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Eating too quickly

This one’s pretty obvious, but in case it must be stated: busy people eat too quickly! When you eat too quickly, you tend to overeat because your brain doesn’t get the time it needs to register that you are full.           [caption id="attachment_701552" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Giving in to late night cravings

If you have to stay up late with your busy schedule, then you probably need to eat something late at night to keep your energy up. When you’re tired, you lose the willpower to make healthy choices. So outsmart yourself by only keeping healthy snacks at the house, like vegetables and hummus.       [caption id="attachment_702157" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Eating at your computer

Do not eat at your computer, over spreadsheets, or while perusing a periodical. When you’re focused on something other than your food, you tend to overeat.         [caption id="attachment_707621" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Skipping a good breakfast

It’s easy to think, “I’ll save twenty minutes by not having breakfast at home.” But then what happens? You get to the office hungry and give into the donuts and bagels. Those only leave you with a blood sugar crash later so, if you think about it, they cost you time.       [caption id="attachment_707068" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Missing out on fresh produce

Fresh produce isn’t the easiest thing to pack, which is why busy people tend to opt for frozen or canned. But don’t do that—it doesn’t have nearly as many nutrients as the fresh stuff.         [caption id="attachment_697001" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Not sleeping enough

Busy people naturally struggle to get enough sleep, but when you’re sleep deprived, you look for energy in other things (like food), and your brain isn’t strong enough to make healthy choices.           [caption id="attachment_621329" align="alignleft" width="500"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Drink anything other than water

Whatever your pick-me-up is—whether it’s juice, an energy drink, a diet soda or a latte—it probably isn’t healthy and will just leave you tired later. Water should be your one and only cold, liquid pick-me-up. [caption id="attachment_613912" align="alignleft" width="500"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Giving into group mentality

Everybody’s stressed out, everybody’s working long hours, and now everybody wants to order greasy delivery because, as they say, “We’ve earned it.” It’s hard not to join in but resist.   [caption id="attachment_717085" align="alignleft" width="414"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Eating with other busy people

If you’re busy, you probably hang out with busy people. That means they’re stressed, rushed, and probably order things like the burger and fries. It’s hard to order healthy around someone who isn’t ordering healthy. If you need to eat alone to make the right food choices, do so.       [caption id="attachment_707616" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Hanging out near food

Don’t have your work conversations standing next to the bagel platter or call your mom on your break next to the donuts. You’re bound to start munching.             [caption id="attachment_693881" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Failing to keep water on hand

You should have a bottle of water at your desk, in your car, and in your bag at all times. Every time you think you want a snack, drink a ton of water—you’ll probably find that your craving goes away.

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9 Times Shemar Moore Kept Lightskinned Brothas In Style Over The Years

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Shemar Moore was just about every woman's dream in the '90s when he played the role of Malcolm Winters on Young and the Restless for 11 years. And as he prepares to return to Criminal Minds, the actor is still the object of many a fan's fantasies some 20 years later. Today, Shemar turns a sexy 47 year's old with the same body, smile, and beautiful skin women fell in love with years ago -- just with a little more gray in the goatee. We're not mad at it. In fact, we thought it was a good time to take a little stroll down memory lane and look back at all the times the Cali native kept light-skinned brothas in style. (At least until Morris Chestnut and Idris Elba came along.) Just kidding. Happy Birthday Shemar! [caption id="attachment_828023" align="aligncenter" width="700"] Shemar Moore
2000 Billboard Awards
MGM Grand Arena
Las Vegas, Nevada 05.12.00
Featuring: Shemar Moore
Where: Las Vegas, Nevada, United States
When: 05 Dec 2000
Credit: Chris Connor / WENN[/caption]

2000

[caption id="attachment_828024" align="aligncenter" width="709"] SHEMAR MOORE
32nd Annual Daytime Emmys
Radio City Music Hall
Where: New York, California, United States
When: 20 May 2005
Credit: Nikki Nelson / WENN[/caption]

2005

[caption id="attachment_828025" align="aligncenter" width="666"] Shemar Moore
21st Annual Soul Train Music Awards at Pasadena Civic Auditorium - arrivals
Pasadena, California - 10.03.07
Featuring: Shemar Moore
Where: United States
When: 10 Mar 2007
Credit: Adriana M. Barraza / WENN[/caption]

2007

[caption id="attachment_828026" align="aligncenter" width="700"] Shemar Moore
Stand Up 2 Cancer held at the Kodak Theater
Los Angeles, California - 05.09.08
Featuring: Shemar Moore
Where: United States
When: 05 Sep 2008
Credit: Nikki Nelson/ WENN[/caption]

2008

[caption id="attachment_828027" align="aligncenter" width="700"] Shemar Moore
HBO Post Golden Globe Party at Circa 55, at the Beverly Hilton Hotel
Beverly Hills, CA - 11.01.09
Featuring: Shemar Moore
Where: California, United States
When: 11 Jan 2009
Credit: WENN[/caption]

2009

[caption id="attachment_828028" align="aligncenter" width="700"] Shemar Moore leaves a medical building in Beverly Hills
Los Angeles, California - 02.03.11
When: 02 Mar 2011
Credit: WENN[/caption]

2011

[caption id="attachment_828029" align="aligncenter" width="700"] Shemar Moore
spends the day on Miami Beach
Miami, Florida - 30.06.12
Featuring: Shemar Moore
When: 30 Jun 2012
Credit: WENN
**Only available for publication in USA**[/caption]

2012

[caption id="attachment_828030" align="aligncenter" width="700"] 65th Annual Primetime Emmy Awards held at the Nokia Theatre L.A.
Featuring: Shemar Moore
Where: Los Angeles, CA, United States
When: 22 Sep 2013
Credit: Adriana M. Barraza/WENN.com[/caption]

2013

[caption id="attachment_828031" align="aligncenter" width="700"] 43rd Annual Daytime Emmy Awards held at the Westin Bonaventure Hotel and Suites - Press Room
Featuring: Shemar Moore
Where: Los Angeles, California, United States
When: 01 May 2016
Credit: Adriana M. Barraza/WENN.com[/caption]

2016

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Want That Bathing Suit Serena Williams Wore In Her Pregnancy Pic?

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Bathing Suit Serena Williams

When Serena Williams snuck that pregnancy announcement in on us yesterday, people weren’t only looking at her baby bump, they were also checking out that sexy yellow swimsuit of hers.

After the announcement went viral, the maker of the suit, La Blanca, shared Serena’s post on their IG and directed followers straight to their site where they can buy the one-piece with cutouts on the side and a very low back.

Instagram Photo

The Anniversary 2-Button suit retails for $99 and though it doesn’t appear the yellow shade is available for the masses, La Blanca does have lots of other colors to choose from –white, pink, purple, turquoise, black, and blue — and comes in sizes 4-16. The one-piece is called the anniversary suit because it marks La Blanca’s 30 years of existence and is a nod to their early days with the 80s inspired silhouette via the high cut leg and low back. Purchase your suit here.

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Things Only People Who Hate PDA Understand

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[caption id="attachment_828035" align="aligncenter" width="1068"] Close-up of African American young couple kissing outdoors in summer[/caption] How do you explain to someone you love that your unwillingness to be affectionate in public is no way an indication of how much you love them? Since the majority of people in love show their feelings through physical affection, cannot help but touch their partner any time they’re together (whether they’re in a public or private setting) and don’t even notice they’re doing it, it’s very hard for them to understand that your hesitancy toward PDA isn’t personal. Being uncomfortable with physical displays of affection can be a rather lonely feeling—you’re usually one of the only ones in your friend group, and it’s hard to find people who relate to you. But they are out there! So if it’s any consolation, here are things only people who don’t like PDA understand. [caption id="attachment_825953" align="alignleft" width="500"] Credit: Bigstock[/caption]

People think you’re cold-hearted

People often mistake your discomfort with PDA as a sign that you suffer from some type of emotional issue or are downright cold and heartless.         [caption id="attachment_619438" align="alignleft" width="500"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Your partner’s friends are suspicious of you

Your partner’s friends think the only reason you won’t touch your partner in public is because you’re embarrassed to be with the person, or you are also seeing other people. [caption id="attachment_721934" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]

It can incite jealousy and paranoia

You need to take extra care to “behave yourself” around other men, since the mere fact that you won’t touch your partner in public makes him more prone to jealousy and paranoia.           [caption id="attachment_147584" align="alignleft" width="400"]"Man flirting with woman" praisecleveland.com[/caption]

In fact, people often mistake you for single

It’s pretty common that guys openly hit on you in front of your partner. Since you weren’t being affectionate with your partner, men just assume you’re single. It starts quite a few arguments with your boo.   [caption id="attachment_719155" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Photos are awkward

You hate photo time because people don’t generally accept your desire to stand a few inches away from everyone.               [caption id="attachment_701208" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Private affection is very important

Since you aren’t big on public displays of affection, it’s very important to you that when you’re alone with your partner, you’re all over each other! This is prime time for snuggling.         [caption id="attachment_701807" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Rare moments of PDA are very important

Should you feel moved to show affection in public from time to time, it’s so important that your partner embraces and encourages that. Yeah—it’s a lot of pressure on your partner.           [caption id="attachment_704592" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Other people’s PDA makes you uncomfortable, too

You’re not just uncomfortable showing PDA—you’re also uncomfortable watching it! If a couple is making out in public, you feel like you accidentally stumbled into their bedroom, or onto some private setting.         [caption id="attachment_716577" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]

You lose your partner in crowds a lot

Since you aren’t big on walking hand-in-hand, you often lose your partner in crowded places. You wish the two of you could just be tied together at the hips.         [caption id="attachment_704630" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

You’re extremely aware of your surroundings

You are very empathetic, and you worry about making people jealous, sad or uncomfortable—even people you don’t know. Part of the reason you don’t show a lot of public affection is for fear of making an already sad, lonely person feel sadder and lonelier.       [caption id="attachment_620946" align="alignleft" width="500"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

You hate how it hurts your partner

You aren’t heartless—you do see how it makes your partner sad and it does hurt you to see that.       [caption id="attachment_701800" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Pet names count as PDA

Yes, someone calling you pumpkin, or honey pie, or boo thang, or baby cakes does count as PDA.             [caption id="attachment_701798" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Baby talk also counts as PDA

Your partner speaking to you in a baby voice also counts as PDA and you wish he’d cool it.             [caption id="attachment_717848" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]

No, you don’t want to be converted

When people find out you don’t like PDA, they go on a mission to convert you into someone who does. They try to analyze you and discover what deep-rooted issue has put you off to PDA. It’s exhausting.         [caption id="attachment_711705" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]

You show affection in your own ways

You really wish your partner would recognize that you have your own ways of showing you care. Maybe it’s remembering to pick up his favorite ice cream, or simply being there any time he needs to vent.         [caption id="attachment_705381" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

PDA seems like showing off to you

Sometimes, PDA seems like a way couples show off to the world, “I’m hotter than you; somebody wants me; my life is more together than your life.”           [caption id="attachment_698063" align="alignleft" width="468"] Shutterstock[/caption]

You’re private, in general

If you’re private about affection, you’re likely a private person in general. This means you don’t want your partner making jokes about your sex life to his friends.                       [caption id="attachment_609523" align="alignleft" width="420"] Corbis[/caption]

You feel like a third wheel around PDA

If you’re hanging out with a couple who is being super affectionate, you feel like you should just go home. You almost want to ask, “Am I in the way here?”           [caption id="attachment_717443" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

You get a little into it when you’re drunk

Sometimes, when you’ve had a few drinks, you get into PDA. But this does not mean you’ve turned a corner with the issue.

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T.I. Aside, Can Marriage Actually Be A Distraction?

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During an interview with radio personality Angie Martinez, Atlanta rapper T.I. discussed his recent separation from songstress Tameka “Tiny” Harris. He explained that while he and his estranged wife are on good terms (which is great), he would make a “better best friend than a husband.”

I commend his honesty. However, I don’t quite understand his comments.

TI and Tiny

“It seems to me that marriage and what marriage means and what marriage does — it’s just one of those things that’s going to distract me and deter me. And that could be selfish, but ultimately, I’m the patriarch of this family,” the rapper said. He goes on to state that with the goals he has for himself, he doesn’t have time to be a “thoughtful and considerate” husband.

Initially, I thought that his comment about marriage being a distraction was an excuse for his role in the separation or that his marriage is distracting him from sleeping with other women. While I still have those thoughts, his comments did make me think about whether or not a marriage could really be a distraction and what it’s supposedly distracting a person from.

I would assume that many people could feel that marriage has held them back from success, which can’t be T.I.’s reason since Tiny has held him down before he gained any. But in some cases, I can see how a married man or woman might feel that way. For most, marriage comes first, and there’s not much both parties do without consulting the other. So if there are things you want to accomplish that you feel could be a hindrance to that union, you might feel like it’s no longer worth it.

However, after experiencing past dating relationships and analyzing my own marriage, I’ve come to the realization that any “distractions” should not occur after jumping the broom. Honestly, people should already know what they’re getting into when they decide to take that step. Anything you don’t accomplish after the fact is, to me, your own fault.

I had two opportunities to choose my relationship over chasing my career; one boyfriend wanted me to change colleges to be with him (I politely declined) and in another relationship, I packed up and moved to a different state to further my career. While both relationships were important to me, I chose not to make them a priority over my career. However, when I built a relationship with my now-husband, what he have became the most important thing.

So is marriage really a deterring distraction from your goals or is it the person you decided to marry?

Before getting hitched, a person should iron out necessary details for their own life. Career goals, a stance on family planning, ultimate life goals and other strong desires are paramount. After that, you have to figure out if the person with whom you want to share your life complements you, any of your goals or your overall life plan.

So if you ask me, yes, marriage can be a distraction, but with the right person, it can be a great distraction. The right partner can help you grow (aid in better decision making, be a support system, etc.) and distract you from nonsense that can stifle your progression.

A strong marriage is one that has two people who have common objectives. They both are in constant communication about how they plan to achieve shared goals and continuously work diligently to make it happen.

In an article “Are relationships a distraction from achieving your dreams?” the author mentioned a quote by actor Will Smith regarding his marriage to Jada Pinkett Smith: “If you don’t have a goal, if you don’t have a purpose for your relationship, you can get lost in the murk of the journey.”

Marriage is a journey that should propel and fulfill each person. So if you’re calling it a distraction, one keeping you from being happy, the issue is most likely personal and not with your partner.

 

Image via Bigstock and WENN 

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Tiny On T.I.’s Infidelity: How Can A Man “Stay Normal And Just Faithful” When Women Constantly Throw It At Him?

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Tiny is about to make me pull out that Tyra Banks “We were rooting for you” gif because any hope I had about her seeing the light when she filed for divorce from T.I. in December has completely diminished with every new interview.

The possibly soon-to-be-ex-wife of T.I. appeared on Essence’s Yes, Girl! podcast this week and didn’t hesitate to speak on the rapper’s latest comments about them being “best friends” and marriage being a “distraction.” Here are the high (or low) lights:

Tiny On How She and T.I. Are Still ‘Best Friends’

“We still talk all the time. We’re still together all the time. I don’t know… it’s a crazy thing. But, we definitely had it out about that. On the show you’ll see more about it.”

Tiny On T.I.’s Now Infamous ‘Distraction’ Comments from the Angie Interview

“That’s a cop out, pretty much. Like you’re too old for that. A distraction?! Boy, you’ve been married for seven years going on now, and you’ve been in this relationship for 15 years now. Okay?”

Tiny On How Women Treated Him When They Were Together

“It’s crazy because they don’t really care. Women today they don’t really care that it’s just for a night. So how can a man…they keep throwing it and keep throwing it. Like, how are they supposed to stay normal and just faithful when this is going on all day, all night? It’s a lot.”

So a random woman is more responsible for the fidelity of another woman’s husband than he is?

I get Tiny’s point about how disappointing it is when women don’t respect someone else’s marriage; however that whole “it’s just for a night” mindset is also what keeps a man from being “normal and just faithful.” That “one night” (which clearly has happened multiple nights) is one night when your husband made a choice. His pleasure that one night was more important than his vows or any respect he had for you, so those sexual trysts can’t be downplayed. It is T.I. who has repeatedly been willing to risk it all for “one night.” And a man who was concerned about honoring his marriage wouldn’t repeatedly put himself in a position to have other women “throwing it” at him. Normal is going home at night and avoiding temptation as much as possible, even if you have a wife who’s willing to look the other way.

Listen to Tiny’s full interview with the editors of Essence below. Do you foresee her going through with the divorce?

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Publicist Confirms Serena Is Pregnant And Will Return To Tennis In 2018

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Serena Williams

I had to be the only person on the planet who doubted that Serena was actually pregnant. I thought she was playing a joke on us all. But as the day came to a close and there was no acknowledgment of the joke, I came to the conclusion that it had to be real.

And today, that confirmation came yesterday when Williams’ publicist verified the information to The New York Times, that she is indeed expecting her first child later this year.

Which means, as a couple of people surmised yesterday, that when Williams won her 23rd Grand Slam singles title at the Australian Open, she did so at almost two months pregnant.

I think this ends the debate about who is the greatest athlete of all time. Has anyone ever accomplished such a feat, winning a title like this, while carrying a child? I thinks not. It’s time the world recognize.

Williams will turn 36 in September and her spokesperson Kelly Bush Novak said that Williams will miss the rest of the 2017 and will likely return to the circuit in 2018.

“Serena said that I should make sure if anyone asks that that is clear,” Bush said.

Veronica Wells is the culture editor at MadameNoire.com. She is also the author of “Bettah Days.” You can follow her on Facebook and Twitter @VDubShrug.

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Who’s The Better Housewife?

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Calling all “Real Housewives of Potomac” fans! Do you have a favorite housewife on the show?

We recently had two favorites from the Bravo reality series — Charisse Jackson-Jordan and Robyn Dixon — stop by the office and we put their housewife knowledge to the test. Check out these two go head to head as they name the best wives of all time. Tell us your picks in the comments section.

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“You Got To Support Your Child”: Magic Johnson Offers Advice To Parents Of LGBTQ Children

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While appearing on an episode of The Ellen DeGeneres Show, Magic Johnson was asked what advice he would give to a parent who is dealing with the news that their child is gay.

EJ Johnson

Johnson has three children. A son named Andre from a previous relationship, and with wife “Cookie,” he has son EJ (Earvin III) and daughter Elisa, who the couple adopted in 1995. Son EJ is openly gay and has created quite a following for himself on social media and on reality television, including the E! series Rich Kids of Beverly Hills and his spinoff, EJNYC. 

As EJ told PEOPLE a few years ago, he came out to Cookie first when he was around 13 or 14, and a year later, he did the same with his father. According to him, “after I got all the love and support from my family, I knew I could go out and conquer the world.”

And EJ sure has conquered in his mesh ensembles, thigh-high boots and sequined booty shorts. Just fabulous, child.

EJ Johnson

Knowing how their support impacted EJ in such a positive way, Johnson’s advice to other parents of LGBTQ children is to be there. If you aren’t, who will be?

“I think it’s all about you not trying to decide what your daughter or son should be or what you want them to become,” Johnson told DeGeneres. “It’s all about loving them no matter who they are, what they decide to do. And when my son came out, I was so happy for him and happy for us as parents. We love him. EJ is amazing. So you’ve got to support your child, because it’s so many people who try to discriminate against them, so they need you to support them. Because if you don’t support them, who is going to support them? And love them?”

Check out his chat with Ellen about such serious matters, as well as lighter ones, including his regrets about the one business venture he backed out on: Investing in Nike.

Images via WENN and Getty  

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After Being With A Woman For Two Years, Singer La’Porsha Renae Says She Chose Men Again

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La’Porsha Renae, the singer who came in second place on American Idol, recently stopped by “The Real” to not only perform her new single but to clear up a couple of comments she made after the show ended. During her numerous press runs, someone asked La’Porsha what she thought about Mississippi’s House Bill 1523.

The bill was dubbed the Religious Liberty bill and would allow people with faith-based objections to deny wedding services to same-sex couples.

For the life of me, I don’t know why they asked La’Porsha to speak on this. But they did. And her response had people feeling some type of way.

She said: “I am one of the people who don’t really agree with that lifestyle. I wasn’t brought up that way. It wasn’t how I was raised.” Perhaps, as a consolation, Renae said “a lot of friends and a lot of people that I love dearly who are gay and homosexual and they’re such sweet, nice people.”

Yeah, nah.

Later, after the inevitable backlash and accusations that La’Porsha was homophobic came, she offered a few explanations.

Then earlier this year, La’Porsha was still explaining and ended up sharing her personal experience with the LGBT lifestyle.

Well, isn’t that an interesting turn of events. She doesn’t agree with the lifestyle but she was once a part of it. Fascinating. During a sit down with “The Real,” she explained how that happened.

“When people ask me a personal question, I answer it in a personal way. I can only speak from the footsteps and the shoes that I’ve walked in. We have so many variations that make us who we are. The reason I even went towards homosexuality, at first ,was because I was raped, I was molested, I was abused. I saw a lot of people around me going through the same thing with men. So I told myself, ‘I’m not going to be with a man. I’m going to be with a woman.’ And then I just kind of found my spirituality. I found a belief system that worked for me and I said, ‘I actually do want to give being with men another chance.’ And I didn’t want those experiences to define any experience that I would have as bad with a man. But that’s me. I can never said that everybody gets to choose. I never spoke for anybody but myself.”

I hear what La’Porsha is saying. And she is speaking from her personal experiences. There is a very problematic stereotype that purports that people are only gay because of some sexual trauma, that there must be some type of brokenness that makes one gay. Still, La’Porsha  gave her reasons for choosing to be with women. That really is her story. I just think I could appreciate these comments so much more if she hadn’t jumped out of the gate saying that she didn’t agree with the lifestyle in the first place, a lifestyle in which she had already participated. Then we wouldn’t be in the place where the top stories about La’Porsha aren’t about her musical abilities, which are phenomenal, they’re about her thoughts on LGBT issues.

You can watch the video of the interview in the video below.

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A Few Of Our Favorites From Time’s 100 Most Influential People List

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As you know, every year Time Magazine releases a list of their 100 most influential people for the yearhttp://time.com/collection/2017-time-100/. And while Donald Trump made the list, likely out of custom-- the fact is that sadly, he does have perhaps more influence than he's ever had before. But we won't dwell too long on him, instead we'll focus on the amazing people who we were thrilled to see on the list. But more than the fact that they were chosen, it's the beautiful things that their notable peers had to say abotu them as well. Check it all out on the following pages.

Tamika Mallory

The Women’s March was the most inspiring and transformational moment I’ve ever witnessed in politics. It was a joyful day of clarity and a lightning bolt of awakening for so many women and men who demanded to be heard. And it happened because four extraordinary women—Tamika Mallory, Bob Bland, Carmen Perez and Linda Sarsour—had the courage to take on something big, important and urgent, and never gave up. - Kirsten Gillibrand [caption id="attachment_821359" align="aligncenter" width="500"] Credit: FashionPPS/WENN.com[/caption]

Alicia Keys

“Last year, Alicia sparked a #NoMakeup movement. She expressed her desire to go makeup-free, released her single "In Common" with bare, gorgeous cover art and began making public appearances with the same beautiful commitment. Why? Because Alicia doesn't hide her truth, her flaws, her dreams or her journey. It is that authenticity and vulnerability that endear her to us. We are drawn to her honesty, we respect and adore her, and in doing so, we move closer to embracing our own true selves. In the entertainment industry, there is intense pressure to conform in order to create an easily marketable product. But if you listen to Alicia's music, learn about her Keep a Child Alive foundation or witness her life, you know that she is not a product of anyone but God, her family and her truth.” - Kerry Washington [caption id="attachment_705997" align="aligncenter" width="420"]Leslie Jones WENN[/caption]

Leslie Jones

It wasn't just the comedy that drew me close to Leslie Jones…It wasn't just the beauty, though it radiates from her unchecked. It was, in fact, the kindness, the thoughtfulness and the way she owns all of who she is. She stalks the audience from the stage and in front of the cameras. Like the comedy greats throughout history, she's there to give, and what she is prepared to give is all of who she is. All the absurdity and pathos of being human. All the joy of having a heart that big. She's going to be the person who says out loud what you were thinking, when you didn't even realize you thought like that…Yes, it was Leslie Jones who drew me to Leslie Jones.” - Russell Crowe [caption id="attachment_745183" align="aligncenter" width="783"] Photo Credit: WENN.com[/caption]

Chance the Rapper

“Years ago, my grandmother asked me to call her friend’s grandson. “I want you to give him some words of encouragement,” she said. “He wants to be a rapper.” She gave me his number, and I left him a message. I told him to keep following his dreams. Then I forgot all about it. Years later, my teenage daughter played me a new mixtape she loved from an artist named Chance the Rapper. There was something unique and soulful about it—I could tell he really knew hip-hop. And when I first met him, I realized that he knew me too. “You won’t remember this,” he said, “but you called me when I was a kid.” Chance upends expectations about what artists, ­especially hip-hop artists, can do. He streams his albums instead of selling them. He makes music from an unapologetically inspiring and Christian perspective—music that transcends age, race and gender. He gives back to his Chicago community. And he does it all as an independent artist, without the support of a label. I’m glad Chance followed his dreams. I hope he always does.” - Common [caption id="attachment_786545" align="aligncenter" width="500"] Photo: Christian Behring/Future Image/WENN.com[/caption]

Barry Jenkins

“Barry Jenkins is one of the rare artists who are willing to look into the deeper places of themselves and society in order to provide a lens through which we may discover the humanity at our core. And he has come to the attention of the world at precisely the right moment, just when we most need someone to give voice to those who have not been heard.” - Kathryn Bigelow

Ava DuVernay

Ava's point of view is fresh, it's inspiring, it's original, it makes people's heads turn. But she also embraces other people's perspectives. When we worked together, Ava was able to integrate herself into my life and see things through my eyes. It takes a very special person to do something like that.” - Venus Williams Jordan Peele Daniel Kaluuya PF

Jordan Peele

“Of The Exorcist, James Baldwin once wrote, "I was most concerned with the audience. I wondered what they were seeing, and what it meant to them." Sitting in a crowded theater, I wonder the same as I take in Jordan Peele's astonishing Get Out. In the shifting laughter lacing the room, at once rancorous, nervous, defensive and, yes, knowing, a cinema maxim is turned on its head—rather than presenting us a mirror, this multi-hyphenate auteurist shows us more of ourselves than we ever wanted to see, a window through which America is left no choice but to recognize the purgatory of her own sunken place…” - Barry Jenkins Simone Biles dating

Simone Biles

“And she is the best at it. Not the best black gymnast, not the best black-girl gymnast. The best gymnast. It really is inspiring. It's like she's sending a message to everyone who's watching: No matter what you're going through in life or what your circumstances are, you still can be No. 1. You've just got to work hard.” - Leslie Jones

Rupaul

“Ru was different. Not just because he had perfect, precise clothes and makeup, or because he was the only man I knew who could look that good in a wig and heels. There were no rough edges to be found. But as I got to know him better, I got to experience firsthand his wit and his intelligence—he’s like an ­encyclopedia. And his beauty is far beyond skin-deep… I am blessed to know Ru. We all are.” - Naomi Campbell

Fatou Bensouda

Former Gambian Justice Minister Fatou Bensouda now presides over investigations and prosecutions at the International Criminal Court at one of the most fraught moments in its 19-year existence. Earlier this year, leaders of the African Union called for a collective withdrawal from the court, claiming that the arbiter of the world's most morally repugnant crimes is racist, colonial and anti-African because it has almost exclusively investigated and prosecuted Africans. Russia has already left, and the Philippines has hinted that it might follow suit, signaling a dissolution of the only independent international body truly capable of investigating and prosecuting genocide and crimes against humanity wherever they happen. Bensouda isn't going to let that happen without a fight. When countries started announcing their intent to leave, she blasted them for giving African leaders a free hand "to commit genocide." She has also directed the court to consider new cases from Ukraine, Iraq, Colombia and Afghanistan, which should put some of the criticism to rest. Justice may be blind. But when it comes to the politics of where it can be applied, Bensouda knows she has to go in with her eyes wide open. - Aryn Baker

Viola Davis

“Her gifts as an artist are unassailable, undeniable, deep and rich and true. But her importance in the culture—her ability to identify it, her willingness to speak about it and take on responsibility for it—is what marks her for greatness.” - Meryl Streep

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Are You Making Your Allergies Worse?

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[caption id="attachment_827773" align="alignleft" width="1068"] Bigstockphoto.com/Woman has a cold against used tissues[/caption] Seasonal allergies are worse than ever this year, with many states reporting more tree pollen than usual, and plenty of people going to the doctor believing they have a cold or flu, when it’s just allergies. Of course, it’s not just allergies. In some ways, a cold or flu is better because at least it has an expiration date of about four to ten days. Meanwhile, allergies can plague a person for months on end and feel just as exhausting and uncomfortable as a cold or flu. It’s not uncommon for people to stay home from work or skip out on their usual activities because their allergy symptoms are just that bad. Unfortunately, taking some of the more common medications for allergies every day for weeks on end isn’t very good for your body, so you need to tackle allergies in a more natural way. The question is, are some of your habits actually making your allergies worse? [caption id="attachment_706397" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Taking sedatives

There are a lot of good over-the-counter medications out there, but some of them are sedatives. While these can alleviate your itchy throat, watery eyes and runny nose, they’ll also knock you out and make you incapable of doing anything.           [caption id="attachment_713803" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Staying home

Staying home from work doesn’t make your allergies worse, but it doesn’t make them better and since allergies aren’t contagious, there’s no need to spare your coworkers of your presence. Missing out on work may just cause you stress, and stress exacerbates all physical ailments.           [caption id="attachment_220076" align="alignleft" width="500"]"Woman on the phone in bed pf" Shutterstock.com[/caption]

Getting in bed in today’s clothes

Ideally, you should be changing clothes every time you come indoors so as not to drag allergens around your home. You definitely should not get into bed in the clothes you wore while walking around that day.     [caption id="attachment_827908" align="alignnone" width="819"]It's Shady Out There Sometimes Portrait happy smiling african woman in colorful clothes and sunglasses in profile[/caption]

Failing to wear sunglasses

Even if it isn’t sunny out, if allergens get into your eyes, you’ll pay for it later. Wear sunglasses anytime you go outside during allergy season. You can even add a hat for extra protection.   [caption id="attachment_608268" align="alignleft" width="467"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Neglecting to get tested

Allergy specialists exist for a reason! They can determine what is causing your symptoms to flare up, and in many cases, can give you a vaccine that can nearly eliminate your symptoms.                 [caption id="attachment_824800" align="alignleft" width="420"] Bigstockphoto.com/High Angle View Of Young African Female Janitor Cleaning Hardwood Floor With Vacuum Cleaner[/caption]

Failing to vacuum

If you have allergies and you don’t have a high-efficiency particulate air (HEPA) vacuum yet, it’s time to get one. If you have a pet, you should be using your vacuum at least once a week to pick up all the pollen your animal drags indoors.             [caption id="attachment_715151" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Jogging in the morning

The pollen count is particularly high in the morning, so if that’s when you like to workout, stick to the gym or indoor activities.               [caption id="attachment_718919" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Leaving your windows open at night

Speaking of morning pollen, it can easily find its way into your home when you leave your windows open. Yes, even if you have a protective screen. Pollen is tiny enough to go through insect screens.           [caption id="attachment_693716" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Smoking

You need all of your airways in the best working conditions possible when you have allergies. Smoking only makes it harder to breathe and you don’t need that right now.               [caption id="attachment_694309" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Having hot liquids

Since allergies can feel like a cold, you may be tempted to treat them like a cold by consuming things like hot soup and tea. But the steam of these items can actually irritate already inflamed nostrils.             [caption id="attachment_697001" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Not sleeping enough

Sleep-deprivation didn’t cause your allergies, but it could be the thing that sends them over the edge and into a sinus infection. If you are already suffering from allergies, get enough rest since your system is now vulnerable.             [caption id="attachment_713130" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Drinking alcohol

You absolutely can’t touch the stuff if you’re taking a sedative medication. Furthermore, alcohol can inflame tissues in your nose and throat, making allergy symptoms worse.             [caption id="attachment_621581" align="alignleft" width="422"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Waiting too long to address the problem

Do not wait for symptoms to attack; when you know allergy season is here, start taking your antihistamines before your histamines rise. Your body can better combat allergies if it has antihistamines in your system before pollen count goes up.         [caption id="attachment_704429" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Over-eating

In case you needed another reason to drop a few pounds, eating too much can cause acid reflux, which can actually harm your lungs, making allergy symptoms worse.             [caption id="attachment_827776" align="alignleft" width="420"] Bigstockphoto.com/Vapor from humidifier in front of window[/caption]

Failing to get a HEPA air purifier

If you have a pet, you really cannot live without a HEPA air purifier. Keep in mind that pets carry a type of dander that lingers in the air for a long time.             [caption id="attachment_612606" align="alignleft" width="378"] Corbis Images[/caption]

Neglecting to purchase dust mite items

Dust mite bedding covers! If dust mites trigger your allergies, then you need dust-mite-proof pillow cases and mattress covers, ASAP. Otherwise, you’re just lying down in a pile of allergies at night, and will wake up with terrible symptoms.             [caption id="attachment_694319" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Letting your pup kiss you

People often believe they’re allergic to their dog’s fur but it’s actually the pup’s saliva that can carry the most allergens! So stop letting Fido kiss you on the face.             [caption id="attachment_713115" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Eating pickles

Actually, any fermented food will make your allergies act up. The yeast involved in the fermentation process actually produces histamines, which will make allergy symptoms worse.             [caption id="attachment_717962" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Snacking on celery

People who are allergic to grass shouldn’t eat celery, so if celery sticks and peanut butter are your go-to snack, it’s time to switch it up. This stalky vegetable interacts with pollens similar to those found on grass.           [caption id="attachment_702955" align="alignleft" width="616"] FoodNetwork.com[/caption]

Eating blue cheese

Not only can dairy inflame airways for some people, making allergy symptoms worse, but blue cheese, in particular, contains the all-mighty and evil histamines.

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Complicated People To Invite (Or Not) To Your Wedding

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[caption id="attachment_827062" align="alignleft" width="1068"] Bigstockphoto.com/Kissing of a wedding couplein the garden[/caption] You may not think that coming up with your wedding guest list is going to be complicated, but it can actually be one of the greatest points of tension between a couple planning their wedding. In an ideal world, you would have an unlimited budget, and your wedding reception could look like the final scene in “Big Fish” when Ewan McGregor’s character sees every single person he’s ever known and liked. But that isn’t the world in which you’re living, so when coming up with your guest list, you may need to make some cuts that hurt. You also may have to invite some people who you really don’t want there, and who it drives you nuts to spend $70 a plate on. But politics are a real thing, my friend! And you may need to invite that one aunt so as to not divide the families. Here are the most complicated people to invite (or not invite) to your wedding. [caption id="attachment_698081" align="alignleft" width="419"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Your ex

So you have a good friend, who you dated for a while. You were friends first, and you’re very good friends now. Your fiancé likes him just fine but at the end of the day...your boo would prefer that nobody in the audience has slept with you.       [caption id="attachment_616901" align="alignleft" width="378"] Corbis Images[/caption]

A parent’s new girlfriend

Your parents don’t exactly get along. Maybe they don’t get along because your dad’s new girlfriend was also his girlfriend while he was with your mother. But he’s legitimately with that GF now so…do you invite her?         [caption id="attachment_719795" align="alignleft" width="429"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Your friend who your SO doesn’t like

You have this one close friend, but your significant other and her have just never gotten along. You can’t image your wedding without her; your SO can’t imagine the big day with her.       [caption id="attachment_708038" align="alignleft" width="475"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Your parents’ friends you don’t know

Your mom insists that it would break her heart if her best friend from college couldn’t witness her daughter’s wedding day. But you barely know the woman!     [caption id="attachment_702871" align="alignleft" width="425"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Distant relatives

These cousins have sent you a Christmas and birthday card every year since you were born, and visa versa. But really, they don’t know what your favorite food is, or much about your personality.         [caption id="attachment_626589" align="alignleft" width="500"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Ex-in-laws

Your dad raised you for the first ten years of your life, but then your step dad raised you for the following ten. But then your mom divorced your step dad. It would devastate you not to have him at the wedding, but it would really piss your mom off to have him there. [caption id="attachment_707855" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Your neighbors you really like

You know the ones—you walk your dogs together, you barbecue together on the weekends, and you actually share a lot of intimate details with them. But at the end of the day, you’ve only known them for a few months.       [caption id="attachment_704636" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

People who think you’re closer than you are

This is one of the toughest ones! The person who calls you one of her “best friends” and really, you forget to invite her to your birthday parties most years.       [caption id="attachment_700481" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Peripheral friends

These are friends that run in your circle—you’re always at the same events—but you haven’t gotten close. In fact, you straight up dislike some of them. But if you don’t invite them to your wedding, you could cause a rift in the group.       [caption id="attachment_220077" align="alignleft" width="450"]"Guys getting drunk pf" Shutterstock[/caption]

Your fiancé’s frat brothers

He says they’re like family—you say they’re like the guys who break a piece of furniture every time they come over and have no problem hitting on your mom.   [caption id="attachment_728347" align="alignleft" width="500"] Credit: Shutterstock[/caption]

A brand new plus one

Your best friend has been dating a guy for three months. Honestly, you don’t think it’s going to work out and you don’t want to drop $70 a plate on the guy. But you can’t tell your friend that.         [caption id="attachment_609203" align="alignleft" width="378"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Recently divorced couple

What do you do when you’ve been friends with a couple for years, and now they’re divorced or getting a divorce? Who do you invite? Do you invite them both?           [caption id="attachment_694314" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

People with lots of little kids

If you don’t want tons of kiddos running around your wedding, pulling centerpieces off of tables and screaming during your bridesmaid’s speech, how do you approach that topic?       [caption id="attachment_703763" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

New friends you really like

You have a new BFF! Maybe you know her from Pilates class or work. You text each other every day. You really feel a connection. But you can’t quite justify inviting her because you barely know her.       [caption id="attachment_620857" align="alignleft" width="420"] Corbis[/caption]

People who don’t approve of the union

You will have close friends and family members who blatantly do not approve of your marriage. But you have to invite them. Uuuugh that is the worst.

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Are You Not Entertained? Why Reality TV Needs A New Formula

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I have never watched an episode of Bad Girls Club, so I am not sad that the show is calling it quits after 17 seasons. I’ve seen a few clips here and there of past episodes and I just wasn’t intrigued enough to tune in consistently. The same goes for every franchise of Basketball Wives. My favorite guilty pleasures have always been Real Housewives of Atlanta and Love & Hip Hop–in their early years. Now, reality TV is just frustrating to watch. The average person may say “Well, if it’s so frustrating to you, stop watching.” Nope! I’d rather the producers make it better for those who like to watch such programming, instead of playing with our intelligence.

Put a bunch of women from different walks of life in a room and conflict will happen naturally, so there’s no reason for these shows to be so mundane in the writing.  Here’s my two cents about what viewers are tired of seeing.

  1. That’s My Storyline and I’m Sticking To It. These shows are supposed to reflect reality, so shouldn’t the plots be realistic? Let’s think about it. In what world does a woman who’s new in town and seriously trying to make friends throw shade relentlessly at strangers?
  2. It’s Too Predictable. If a vacation of any sort is planned, we already that know a girl fight is just one dinner away. Whenever someone has a grand opening or a launch party, the uninvited shows up to show out. Isn’t the goal supposed to be to keep viewers guessing what’s next so they keep tuning in?
  3. Social Media Receipts Say Otherwise. On the the small screen you can catch cast members meeting up to do the most random things, like shooting at the gun range and getting cosmetic procedures done. But if you look at their Instagram accounts, the crew love isn’t so obvious. Where’s all the evidence of the “friends” doing stuff together in real life?
  4. Fly By Night Businesses. She by Sheree and Mimi Faust’s maid service are just two of the many businesses we have seen flourish on TV and nowhere else. This prompts me to believe that this spirit of entrepreneurship is all for a storyline. What do these people do to sustain themselves outside of the shows they are on? Let us see that. Or better yet, let us see the progression of these businesses on camera. Even if they fail miserably, it will be interesting to watch and teach someone about how NOT to conduct business!
  5. Rehashing Old Drama To Make New Drama. As mentioned, I have not been keeping up with Basketball Wives. However, I can tell from the advertisements that Evelyn and Tami are going for each other’s jugular this season about the “You were a non-bleeping factor” statement that was made by Evelyn eons ago. We’re over it.

What would you like to change about reality TV?

 

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Restaurant Foods That Are Consistently Overpriced

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[caption id="attachment_828017" align="alignleft" width="1068"] Bigstockphoto.com/Man and women, black and Latin people, eating late in Korean eatery[/caption] If you’re like me, then on principal, you won’t buy something if it’s over-priced even if it’s well within your budget. Sometimes it seems like vendors are performing some sort of social experiment to see how much money they can get out of consumers for something that really isn’t worth much. Restaurants are some of the worst offenders; if they serve it on an oval plate and add a pretty garnish to it, they think they can charge you $28 for white fish and rice. Really? You just paid for an hour of that fisherman’s workday! It’s nice to splurge on restaurant food sometimes, but if you’re going to do it, get something that really is worth the money, and is difficult to make at home. Here are restaurant foods that are consistently over-priced. [caption id="attachment_612048" align="alignleft" width="500"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Side salads

Some restaurants charge as much as $8 for a side salad—and a tiny one at that. They purchase giant bags of lettuce at a wholesale price of around $2 to $5, and from those bags make nearly twenty side salads.       [caption id="attachment_617473" align="alignleft" width="500"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Eggs

Considering that you can purchase free-range eggs for about fifty cents a piece, it seems a bit outrageous that a restaurant may charge you $6 for two scrambled eggs. And who knows what the quality is of those eggs?     [caption id="attachment_716418" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Mac and cheese

It doesn’t matter if they add mushrooms, bread crumbs or even lobster—at the end of the day it’s mac and cheese. Keep in mind they often charge you the same price for barely a handful of lobster that they would for an entire tail.             [caption id="attachment_828018" align="alignleft" width="420"] Bigstockphoto.com/Oysters on crushed ice with oyster knife, old silver fork and lemon fruit on a porcelain plate on slate.[/caption]

Oysters

Let’s not forget that oysters do not require preparation. Unless they’ve been fried or turned into some sort of shooter, the chef literally just cleaned them and put them on a plate with lemon slices.             [caption id="attachment_828019" align="alignleft" width="422"] Bigstockphoto.com/Top view alba white truffle on wood board and truffle'sknife[/caption]

Truffle anything

If there is truffle oil or truffle anything in your dish, the serving is likely comparable to how much watermelon there is in a watermelon lollipop. But the restaurant will charge you as if you bought a basket of truffles.             [caption id="attachment_702808" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Cheese platters

Any sort of platter where you get a few bites of this and that, like olives, cured meats, and cheese, is typically over-priced. You’re paying for the presentation, and the restaurant presents it to make it look like you got a lot of food, when really, you probably got one-third of the small prosciutto packets you find at the grocery store, to split amongst three people.         [caption id="attachment_693878" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

A side of vegetables

A side of vegetables, such as asparagus and mushrooms, can often be two or three times the usual cost. And what did the chef do? Saute them in oil—just like you do at home.               [caption id="attachment_697875" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Potato dishes

Potatoes are some of the cheapest food out there and since they are in season year-round, they are never difficult to get. And yet, you can pay a lot for gourmet fries and potato gratin.             [caption id="attachment_706513" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Simple pasta plates

Let’s take spaghetti alla puttanesca , for example. The ingredients are capers, olives, garlic, tomatoes, olive oil, and anchovies. And you really only get a few drizzles of anything that isn’t the tomato sauce. Meanwhile, you may pay $12 to $15 for this dish.           [caption id="attachment_696691" align="alignleft" width="421"] Shutterstock.com/Chicken soup[/caption]

Cups of soup

A cup of soup at a restaurant is barely even a real measured-out cup. They serve it to you in a thick bowl with a raised bottom to make it look like you’re getting more than you are, and they charge you almost the same price as a full bowl.             [caption id="attachment_700518" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Soft drinks

A full diet soda costs a restaurant pennies. That’s right—PENNIES. But they may charge you $3 for it. And no free refills.               [caption id="attachment_717497" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Pizza

Making a simple medium cheese pizza with a few veggies on it costs a restaurant under $3 to make. The restaurant will charge you $12 to $15 for it.             [caption id="attachment_703391" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Kobe beef

According to research done in 2016, there are only 9 restaurants in the United States that offer genuine Kobe beef on the menu. What are the chances you’re eating at one of those?             [caption id="attachment_701534" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Fancy burgers

A restaurant adds some caramelized onions and half a hot dog to your burger, and suddenly the price goes up $5.             [caption id="attachment_703358" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Guacamole

You already knew this one. But what’s most offensive is that some “sides” of guacamole at restaurants provide barely enough of the green stuff for a quarter of your dish and cost six times the price of an avocado.

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Leave Your New Boo At Home: Should Plus-Ones Be Reserved For Those Engaged And Married?

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Upon hearing about a family member or close friend’s engagement, I express my sincerest elation for them. Immediately afterward, I offer a few pieces of advice, including my favorite: “Be selfish and do whatever the hell you two want.”

People normally interpret my advice as a recommendation to choose the type of wedding they want (beach vs. church, lots of flowers vs. none at all, etc.). While that’s important, being honest about the number of guests desired should be at the very top of your list.

wedding guests

After I got engaged, I expected that the guest list would be the hardest and most stressful part of wedding planning. After setting our max number of invitees aside (using the percentage rule), my husband (then-fiancé) and I divided that number, allowing us both to invite the same amount of people. It was important to us that we spent money on our dream wedding, which required that our guest list be smaller than we would have hoped. We got over feeling bad about that pretty quickly.

In order to keep our list under the maximum number allotted and invite those closest to us, we decided to not allow guests to bring a date unless they were married (or engaged). In most cases, we had to inform those unmarried guests, who were dating someone, that they could not bring a date (this would be further enforced by our invitation, which indicated the number of seats a guest was allocated).

However, this didn’t stop certain friends from asking me outright if they could bring a date (testing me like a toddler would his or her parent), hoping and seeking a different answer than before.

Some unmarried guests deemed it unfair and even questioned other guests’ privileges at the wedding reception. Two guests were able to bring their girlfriends after all – one had already bought an engagement ring and the other guest’s girlfriend had become a really good friend of mine right after I got engaged.

I never explained myself to those not-so-single friends who weren’t happy about the guest list number, mainly because I didn’t feel it was necessary. But inviting someone’s boo, and in most cases, the boo of the season, is not desirable for a few reasons.

For one, you, the bride or groom, don’t know this man or woman. While saying your vows, it should be in front of the people you love the most and with whom you want to celebrate this joyous occasion. If you don’t know a person, even if you’ve met them once, why invite them to a significant event in your life?

Secondly, weddings can be expensive. Let’s say that your food, open bar and cake (if all lumped into one package) is around $100 per person. For a wedding of 150 guests, your total would be $15,000, excluding decorations, vendors and other essentials. Paying for a complete stranger when you’re trying to stick to a budget is a no-no.

As for disgruntled guests, if you find yourself invited to a wedding and not able to bring a date, don’t ask to bring one — especially if you’ve been told otherwise. An exception, however, might be if you don’t know anyone else slated to attend. In that case, there might be additional space closer to the date to allow you to bring someone.

But at the end of the day, don’t be offended if your flavor of the month can’t come. At least you made the cut! And when your time comes, trust me, you will understand.

 

Image via Bigstock 

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