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Flo-Jo: 11 Times History-Maker Florence Griffith Joyner Set Fashion Trends While Setting World Records

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When Florence Griffith Joyner, also known as Flo-Jo, took the track, you were watching not only for what was sure to be a dominant performance but also for her style choices. From her long, colorful nails to her makeup and hair, the three-time Olympic gold medalist was truly a trendsetter. But aside from her beauty moves, Flo-Jo was known for her track suits. From one-legged ensembles sure to showcase a muscular thigh to pieces made out of lace and in bold colors, she never bored when she was competing (unless she had to wear a standard track uniform, which she did from time to time — including at the Seoul Olympics). The one-legged look, in particular, ended up becoming her signature, but according to Flo-Jo, all of her suits helped her excel on the track. As she once said, “Dress good to look good. Look good to feel good. And feel good to run fast!”

Check out 11 times the late track star and Black history maker set fashion trends while setting world records.

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Guess Where We’ll See Mrs. Obama Next?

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We know you’ve been missing seeing our former and forever First Couple Barack and Michelle Obama. And apparently, once the two island-dwelling lovebirds return from their vacation, we know where we can catch Mrs. Obama.

On “Master Chef Junior.”

According to The Grio. when the show returns for its fifth season, Mrs. Obama will be the special guest later this month. “Master Chef Junior,” a cooking competition for young chefs between the ages of 8-13. In addition to the former First Lady, Martha Stewart and the Muppets will make an appearance on this season of the show.

Naturally, this appearance is a good fit for Mrs. Obama since she spent her tenure as First Lady advocating for healthy eating and exercise for children.

Master Chef Junior airs on Thursday nights on Fox at 8/9c.

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Veronica Wells is the culture editor at MadameNoire.com. She is also the author of “Bettah Days.” You can follow her on Facebook and Twitter @VDubShrug.

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Signs It Really Is You, And Nobody Else, Messing Up Your Relationships

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You know the old saying, “It’s not you, it’s me?” Well, that’s usually the saying people use when it really isn’t them but the other person who is messing things up, and they just don’t think the other person is stable enough to hear that truth. If you hear those little words during most of your breakups then there is a good chance you do some things that make a guy think, “Okay A) I need to get out of this and B) I need to let her down lightly because if I tell her the truth, she may throw a drink on me or slash my tires or hire her therapist for seven days out of the week. Your friends may tell you you’re picking the wrong guys, but your friends might just be sparing your feelings. That’s sweet, but not helpful. Here are signs it’s you, not them, messing up your relationships.

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The Benefits Of Eating Pink Himalayan Salt

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You’ve probably seen jars of gorgeous pink little rocks in the seasoning aisle of your grocery store but grabbed the traditional granular white salt instead. You like what you like, and you’re not even sure if those pink rocks are edible. They are, they’re very good for you, and they’re far tastier than traditional table salt. Like all super-healthy foods, pink salt is taking a minute to catch on. Think about kale; people used to cringe at it, and now they pay top dollar for it. Maybe for that exact reason, you should stock up on pink salt before the trendsetting food publications do a feature story on it! It’s hard to believe that salt can be good for you since your doctor has been criticizing your sodium intake, but this pretty little seasoning will surprise you. Here are the benefits of eating pink salt.

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Medina King-Sam Went From Washing Dishes To Owning Three Businesses By The Age Of 30

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Medina King-Sam proves that even when you are stuck in a bad work situation, entrepreneurship can be a way out.

This London entrepreneur actually went from washing dishes to running three businesses  before she turned 30. Today, at just 29 years old, King-Sam is one of the first Black children’s interior designers based in London. She crafts personalized, colorful, and fun bedrooms and playrooms for children. But before her success, times were tough for King-Sam, who is a graduate of the renowned University of the Arts London where she obtained a Bachelor of Arts (Honors) in Interior Design. She went through a long stretch of unemployment, only to finally find work at a takeaway restaurant where she not only served food but also cleaned and washed the large industrial pots that were used to cook various dishes.

During her off time at the restaurant, King-Sam started coming up with a plan for her own interior design business. She also started assisting interior stylists and art directors to get more experience in the sector. After racking up that experience she decided to take a “leap of faith” and opened MK Kids Interiors. Here we talk to her about her journey to entrepreneurship.

MadameNoire (MN): What would you say was the most important lesson you learned from working at the takeaway restaurant

Medina King-Sam (MKS): Providing excellent customer service was important. It is important to engage with the customers; with a smile or small talk. It relaxes you and the customer.

MN: How did you come up with the idea for MK Kids Interiors?

MKS: During a local business course I was thinking of a niche — something that was not popular, and a sector I could enjoy, and inject my personality! Children’s interiors came to mind and I then started researching.

MN: How did you fund the startup?

MKS: I was working part time so I used some of my wages to do small things like printing business cards, listing the business on websites and attending fetes.

MN: What made you want to take that “leap of faith”?

MKS: I was bored in retail. I wasn’t good at pretending to be busy. I knew that starting a business would challenge me and give me creative freedom I needed to stay sane. I am also a risk taker; I think I thrive on risks.

MN: What were some of the challenges in starting a new business?

MKS: I didn’t really know what would work. Everything I did was trial and error. Not having a constant income is challenging but I’ve learned that you I needed to invent new ways to earn extra income, that’s when I started selling nursery decor online.

 

MN: What has been most surprising about being an entrepreneur?

MKS: It’s emotional, winning projects gets me on a high but losing projects gets me low. However, I have learned to ask questions, that has helped me improve my business and services. I lost a project last year and because I was confident enough to ask the client why, I implemented the feedback and won another design project.

MN: How do you market MK Kids Interiors?

MKS: I try to blog regularly, I use Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter. I also try and list the businesses on many legitimate websites that are relative to interior design and my target market.

MN: What are some goals for 2017?

MKS: I will be doing more commercial and hospitality interiors with Nesting Properties. I love office and hotel design. They are both different, but they allow more creativity that residential interiors.

MN: How is the business climate in London for Black female entrepreneurs?

MKS: I think there is more room for us now, and there are some amazing Black women doing great things. It’s a great time to venture out.

MN: What do you enjoy the most about being an entrepreneur?

MKS: Creative Freedom! If I have an idea I can implement it myself. I love being able to run my businesses around my family.

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What To Expect If You’re New To Therapy

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Many elementary and high schools require their students attend some sort of personal counseling, even if it’s just a few times a year, which is wonderful because it takes the big dark cloud off of the experience. You, however, likely come from a generation when therapy was only for the deeply disturbed, for couples going through a divorce, and for the children of those couples. So if your life has landed you in a place where you feel you need therapy, the concept can feel daunting and mysterious. Here is what you can expect if you’re new to therapy.

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Ed Hartwell Says The Baby Is His But Is Still Refuses To Pay Child Support

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Keshia Knight Pulliam’s short-lived relationship and marriage to Ed Hartwell has been wrought with drama. And while you might assume that some of that would have subsided once the baby got here, that’s not how things are panning out.

After a paternity test that determined that Hartwell is indeed the father, Ed is not ready to pay child support just yet.
According to TMZ, in new documents filed in his pending divorce, Hartwell acknowledges that he is the father but believes he should not have to pay child support until the court decides upon the amount.
In the documents, Hartwell states that he doesn’t believe Knight Pulliam’s claim that she’s in need of emergency financial support. Plus he said she’s not considering his expenses in setting up a nursery for their daughter in his place.
Ugh.
Ed, you setting up a nursery still doesn’t even begin to cover the costs, both emotional and financial, of day-to-day child care. Stop it.
At this point, it’s just a waiting game to see what he’ll do next.
Veronica Wells is the culture editor at MadameNoire.com. She is also the author of “Bettah Days.” You can follow her on Facebook and Twitter @VDubShrug.

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Black Women More Likely To Be Lonely — A Risk Factor For Heart Disease — Cardiovascular Study Finds

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You may consider loneliness to simply be an emotion that will pass, but a new study has found Black women’s propensity to loneliness may put them at an increased risk for heart disease and other illnesses.

“African-American women at risk for cardiovascular disease have unique predictors of loneliness — financial stress and subjective social status — as compared to non-Hispanic white women,” said study author Karen Saban, RN, PhD, Associate Dean for Research at Loyola University’s School of Nursing, in a news release from the International Stroke Conference.

Tuesday, Saban presenting findings from a new study of 50 Black and 49 white postmenopausal women with at least two risk factors for heart disease at the conference in Houston. Women in the study completed questionnaires regarding their social and financial well-being, and results showed Black women were twice as likely to say they were lonely. “Black women were also nearly three times more likely to have money problems and 2.5 times more likely to feel like they had ‘lower social status,'” according to STL Today.

Although the findings are preliminary, because there is evidence loneliness can increase risk for heart disease, the researchers said these findings could lead to new ways to address the effects socio-economic status and loneliness have in vulnerable populations, such as older Black women who also reported having fewer social links and less reliable social report. Among white women, only symptoms of depression and social integration uniquely predicted loneliness, said Saban.

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Exclusive: The Quad Creator Felicia D. Henderson “Disappointed” By Show Criticism

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While it may be doing well in the ratings and with critics, BET’s Wednesday-night drama The Quad (which airs at 10 p.m. EST) has become a somewhat controversial series. This is thanks in part to criticisms from HBCU alumni and major players like Hampton University President William R. Harvey. He recently sent a letter to BET CEO Debra Lee, chiding the show’s portrayal of historically Black colleges and universities and claiming that it could hurt future enrollment.

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But if you ask Felicia D. Henderson, the show’s creator, about the goal of the entire project, it’s an overwhelmingly positive one.

“I love my people,” she told me over the phone. “My goal is to employ us and show us in all of our lights.”

Showing Black people in all of our lights is Felicia D. Henderson’s specialty. She developed Soul Food for Showtime and has written and produced for everything from Family Matters to MoeshaSister, Sister, and Everybody Hates Chris. It’s hard to believe that at one point, Henderson’s focus was pscyho-biology and corporate finance.

“I originally pursued psycho-biology because I thought I wanted to be a doctor,” she said. “I thought that because I was good at math and science, and that’s what you do when you’re good at math and science. The truth is, I always loved to write, but I didn’t think there was a career in writing.”

But by her senior year of undergrad, an opportunity presented itself that would develop into one after another. While working as a receptionist at a mergers and acquisitions company, she was encouraged by her boss to study for an MBA. In applying for that, Henderson ended up landing a fellowship provided by NBC. That fellowship led to an opportunity to enter into NBC’s management training program, and that’s how Henderson read some of her first television scripts.

“A supervisor at NBC said, ‘You give great notes on scripts, you have lots of ideas, you’re very opinionated. You should try it,'” she said. “I was like, ‘Well, it’s not something I ever thought about.’ But he was the reason I did try it, and he told me about the Warner Bros. writer’s workshop and I applied and got in. From there, I was placed on a show and have been writing ever since.”

Fast forward to 2017, and Henderson has co-created The Quad with Charles Holland, her buddy from the Soul Food days. Granted, Henderson never went to an HBCU, but her experiences studying at the University of Georgia and being in close proximity to the Atlanta University Center Consortium, gave her insight into HBCU life. It also doesn’t hurt that many of the people who work on the show graduated from HBCUs, and that the series is shot on Morehouse’s campus. But as she aptly put it, “You don’t have to have gone to an HBCU to want Blacks depicted being educated and smart and being creative and not monolithic.”

With that being said, Henderson was also aware that some individuals who have graduated from such institutions likely wouldn’t be excited about the project. She knew people would have a lot to say.

“I was expecting and we have received very strong opinions,” she said. “So while we’re doing well in the ratings and critics love the show, there are people who have that experience who don’t like what we’re doing. I did expect very strong opinions, but I can’t say that I did expect people not to see the good in the storytelling. That’s what surprised me.”

Her biggest grievance is with people’s attack on the lead character, Dr. Eva Fletcher, who is played by Anina Noki Rose. Her character cheats on her husband in the series. Is that the central focus of the show? Not at all.

“I did expect strong opinions, but I had hoped that the whole picture we are presenting would be given a fair shot,” she said. “I had hoped people would go, ‘Yes, it’s television. Yes, it has to have drama, but we’re looking at a show that has a young woman who is a Google scholar who codes.’ We’re showing a mathematical genius from the South Side of Chicago. We’re showing a student who is the third generation to be educated at this school. We have scenes in calculus classes. I hope those things are weighed as heavily as, ‘Well, we don’t like that Eva is having an affair.'”

And while she expected “strong opinions,” when I brought up the complaints from Harvey, specifically his worry that the series could hurt HBCU enrollment, she admitted that his comments were unexpected and a bit disheartening.”I feel disappointed, of course,” she said. “Her disappointment is especially strong considering that she says certain aspects of the story are far from fiction. Aspects of Dr. Fletcher’s character, specifically her commitment to students, are actually based on Lincoln University president, Kevin D. Rome. Also, the idea of someone coming to a school that’s in complete disarray and in bankruptcy with the hope of changing things while actively overseeing the success of its students is all too real.

“People who feel like that, I wish I could meet with them and have personal conversations with them so it could be a dialogue instead of, ‘Everyone involved on this show should be fired,'” Henderson stated. “I don’t know what is positive about such an approach. Ultimately, we have the same goal: to educate our people about just how amazing we are. That doesn’t mean, though, that we’re not complicated.”

But criticism is something Henderson is used to. Despite the fact that Soul Food was the longest-running drama with a Black cast, and one of the most successful, even that series garnered disapproval from Black audiences at times.

“I remember some of the same sort of backlash,” she said, “with people talking about ‘How we could display Black families in such a way?’ We overcame the negative backlash because people stayed and watched the show and saw what we were doing. But even though it then became overwhelmingly positive, any time there was a story line that depicted us in not our best moments, people would still get angry.”

She continued, “The show was about a family that always stood together despite their differences and their complicated lives. That’s what it was about. But if you did one thing: ‘Oh my God, I’m never watching again!’ If there’s something that’s more complex and shows us not in our best light, it feels like that will be the thing that sticks with people more than the 80 percent of a show that’s quite positive. That is what is disappointing and pretty much saddens my heart to be honest with you.”

Still, things haven’t been bad. Henderson said that she’s also heard from alumni who have told her they love the representation and see themselves in the series. Not to mention that she’s proud of the fact that she’s been able to provide employment opportunities for a lot of Black people in Atlanta, where the show is set and shot. That includes cast and crew, extras, as well writers and the directors who’ve taken turns behind the camera. Henderson is happy with the work her team has done on The Quad, and is also thankful to see it among a wealth of new shows that tell Black stories. Considering that when Soul Food ended in 2004, it was said to be the last Black drama series on TV at the time, that’s a big deal for her.

“Finally, we see a plethora of really great Black storytelling and dramas,” she said. “I was doing my drama 15 years ago when there were no others and it seemed like there weren’t going to be any others. This is a good time.”

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Not Again: So There’s A South African Rachel Dolezal

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Just like roaches, where there is one White person who says they’re a Black person trapped in the body of a Caucasian, there are bound to be a few more hanging around.

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With all of the attention Rachel Dolezal received after she lost her post as the president of the Spokane chapter of the NAACP for lying about being Black, including a book deal, it’s not surprising that someone else would try their hand at this whole charade. And by charade, I mean capitalizing off of the idea that living among, working around or hanging with a considerable amount of Black people makes someone Black inside, even if they’re White on the outside. This year’s person is South African Anita Ronge, a DJ known by DJ DuchAz and, currently, Kasi Mlungu. She told the Times Live that she is Black and proud after riling people up by saying on social media that “I get rejected for not being black enough and being too black to be white … I’m #KasiMlungu & I’m proud.”

In her chat with the Times Live, her reasons for loving Black women and Black culture were pretty surface.

“African culture and African women are so amazing,” the 26-year-old said. “They own who they are. I don’t see that much of it with white women. I’m not generalising. What I’ve seen and experienced, even from the days when I was an FHM model, there’s just this need to be a part of this Instagram and magazine culture. Black women aren’t like that.”

And as for criticism, as many online have called her out specifically for cultural appropriation, Mlungu doesn’t really get it. She grew up in East Rand, an area filled with Black townships that played a part in conflicts between the African National Congress and the Inkatha Freedom Party during Apartheid. She witnessed and appreciated Black culture. To Mlungu, of course, that’s enough.

“What is wrong with me adopting African culture, something that is ours, that is local and proudly South African?” she asked.

“If you look at a lot of the people who were commenting they would have pictures of Beyoncé and that is appropriation of Western culture. If you can adopt Western culture, why can’t I adopt African culture?”

Still, images of her from a photo shoot, dressed in traditional attire while trying to pull off some interesting poses, spread across social media and drew the ire of quite a few people:

“Hunty, you’re African not black. Sit your white a– down.”

“Cultural appropriation. This is not cute. Stealing land wasn’t enough, now u wanna steal our culture?”

“Everybody wants to be black until it’s time to be black; I bet you don’t use your social media to voice the problems in the black community but you use out culture to get instagram famous; so please don’t ever say you not black enough coz you not black period!!!”

But, as always, there are people who are here for it, including someone who said that she’s “embracing the fact that it is ok to enjoy blackness and not be disgusted by it like most white ppl.”

However, Mlungu, or whatever she wants to call herself today, doesn’t solely identify as Black. She said herself in an interview with W24 that she’s basically trying to juggle her whiteness with an affinity for Black culture.

“I am just comfortable with my identity and the way I identify myself with both cultures,” she said. “I do not identify with one more than the other. Our country should be a no-colour country.”

But when asked by the publication whether she knew about the reality that during Apartheid, Blacks were forced to move in some of the townships she chooses to hang out in, as well as the one her family moved into, she responded by saying that at least everyone has a choice now.

“Anyone can do whatever they want to in this country, which is the great part of living in our country,” she said. “So, why not explore the entire South Africa? I feel like we should move past the past of South Africa.”

Yeeeeeeah. Hard pass.

If you feel so inclined, you can check out a few more of the images of Mlungu that have people talking below:

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Women Of Black History: 5 Things To Know About Chemist Marie M. Daly

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If you are looking to encourage more young girls of color to give STEM programs a chance, you should share with them the story of Marie M. Daly (1921-2003). She was the first Black woman to earn a P.h.D. in chemistry here in the States. She was also someone who, from a young age, had family members who encouraged her to read about scientists and read to her from science books. Not only did she teach, but Marie did some groundbreaking research and did what she could to help other women of color be able to afford the opportunity to study chemistry. Check out five things you should know about Marie M. Daly.

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Her Father’s Inability to Become a Chemist Inspired Her

While she loved reading books about science, a big influence on Marie’s interest in chemistry was her father, Ivan. He moved from the British West Indies, studied at Cornell University and hoped to become a chemist. However, a lack of funds derailed his plans. He got a job as a postal clerk to take care of his family instead. As for Marie, she picked up her father’s interest in chemistry and worked hard to make his dream of becoming a chemist, which became her own, come true.

She Became the First Black Woman to Receive a P.h.D. in Chemistry by Working Hard and Fast

After graduating magna cum laude from Queens College with a bachelor’s degree in chemistry, Marie received a graduate fellowship from her alma mater that helped her afford to attend New York University for her master’s degree. She eventually graduated a year later in 1943, obtaining her master’s in just a year. After that, she started her studies at Columbia University in their doctoral program. She worked under the tutelage of Dr. Mary L. Caldwell. Caldwell had a doctorate in nutrition and helped Marie to see how chemicals in the body aided in the digestion of food. Marie graduated with her P.h.D. in chemistry in 1947 after completing a thesis called “A Study of the Products Formed By the Action of Pancreatic Amylase on Corn Starch.” She unknowingly became the first Black woman to get a P.h.D. in chemistry.

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She Did Some Groundbreaking Research

While working at the College of Physicians and Surgeons at Columbia University in 1955, Marie studied how the arterial wall of the heart is affected by hypertension, aging and atherosclerosis (the build-up of fats and cholesterol). She also was an investigator for the American Heart Association, tracking how hypertension impacts our circulatory system. And when she was teaching at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine at Yeshiva University, she did in-depth studies on arteries and the impact of smoking cigarettes on the lungs (which we now know affects them greatly).

She Helped People Understand How Foods and Poor Diet Impact the Heart

One of Marie’s biggest research moments came in her work trying to understand the causes of heart attacks. She did this while working with Dr. Quentin B. Deming at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine. Their work ended up revealing, in a new way, how our diets impact heart health and the circulatory system.

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She Ensured That Students of Color Could Afford to Study Science

No one knew the struggle to study chemistry like Marie. With that being said, she realized how important it is to help other students of color find their way into medical schools and graduate science programs. Keeping her father in mind and the sacrifices he made, Marie would go on to start a scholarship at Queens College in honor of him. The fund was created to help minority students who are majoring in chemistry and physics afford to further their studies.

 

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Why You Need A Mentor At All Ages

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Most people associate mentors with their college years, or perhaps that brief awkward phase that comes after college when you’re pretending to be a grownup but still don’t know how to write off tax deductions. But to say there is an age when a mentor wouldn’t be useful is to say that there is an age when you know absolutely everything and have nothing else to learn in this life, and that age simply doesn’t exist. The most successful people will tell you that they have mentors throughout their lives and not only until they gain success. Why? Because they want to keep growing and succeeding. So find them through a referral, a networking group or wherever you can just get a mentor. Here is why a mentor is beneficial at any age.

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How To Maintain Bladder Health

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If you often get bladder infections or feel like you spend half of your life either in a bathroom, looking for a bathroom, or worrying that there won’t be a bathroom around when you need one, then there is a good chance your bladder isn’t in optimal condition. Many people don’t even think about a frequent need to urinate or a high occurrence of bladder infections as an overall bad thing. In fact, most individuals don’t even pay much attention to the general health of their bladder unless they’re diagnosed with kidney stones or bladder cancer. But there are things that you can do for your bladder that can make it overall stronger, or overall weaker, just as you can for your heart, lungs or other organs that get more attention. Here is how to maintain bladder health.

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Ronnie DeVoe And Wife Shamari Are Expecting Their First Child

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After nearly eleven years of marriage, New Edition singer Ronnie DeVoe and his wife Shamari, formerly of the R&B group Blaque, have announced that they’re having their first child together.

DeVoe, 49, wished his wife a happy 37th birthday in an Instagram post before sharing the news that the couple are welcoming their first child.

Ronnie wrote:

Today I want you to join me in wishing my beautiful, loving, talented, strong, ambitious, funny, witty, intelligent and most importantly, GOD fearing wife @ShamariDeVoe the biggest #HAPPYBIRTHDAY on the planet! Yah-Mon! • I LOVE you to #LIFE babe…! And, I thank GOD for sending me an angel, a soul mate and a best friend to share the rest of my life with! • Lastly, of all the great things to happen in #2017 so far, GOD has blessed us with the greatest! —> A #NEWEDITION TO OUR FAMILY…….

Shamari reposted the image with this message.

Happy Birthday to Me! God has blessed me tremendously and for that I am truly grateful. To everyone who’s reached out to me; whether by a text, phone call, comment or post, thank you for making this day even more special. Next up—-> Our #NewEdition ✨

Congratulations to these two!

Veronica Wells is the culture editor at MadameNoire.com. She is also the author of “Bettah Days.” You can follow her on Facebook and Twitter @VDubShrug.

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Put Your Money Where Your Mane Is: ORS Introduces Olive Oil For Naturals Line

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If frizzy is your hair’s middle name, listen up because ORS has just launched a new line specifically with you in mind. Building on its Olive Oil collection, the brand has created Olive Oil for Naturals, a line geared toward restoring moisture in hair that is dry and frizzy.

So how does the line do that? The special ingredient is ghee butter, “an Ethiopian secret to softer, healthier looking hair,” that’s rich in vitamins A, D, K2 and E, as well as anti-oxidants. Ghee butter is infused in every single item in the line from washing to styling along with another ingredient favorite of ours, coconut.

Products include:

  • Butter Bliss Sulfate Free Shampoo: A gentle cleanser that also softens the hair.
  • Hydrating Hair Butter: A thick, buttery pomade that moistens and conditions the hair.
  • Buttery Smooth Conditioner: A rinse-out conditioner that nourishes dry, frizzy hair.
  • Butter Milk Styling Lotion: A styler that will lock in moisture and hold curls without weighing them down.
  • Butter Rich Co-Wash: A gentle cleanser that can be used daily in between shampooing or as a deep conditioning treatment.
  • Butter Whipped Leave in Conditioning Crème: An intense leave-in that can be used daily to hydrate hair that is especially dry.
  • Butter Crème Styling Smoothie: A styler formulated to add moisture, shine, elongate curls, and protect against daily styling.
  • Butter Glaze Gel Soufflé: A moisturizing gel to create defined, frizz-free curls.

Olive Oil for Naturals can be purchased at Walgreens and Sally Beauty Supply.

 

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I Shouldn’t Have To Explain Why I’m Out When My Husband Is At Home

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My best friend just celebrated her one-year wedding anniversary a little over a month ago. She’s a busy woman, and her career in the music industry causes her to travel quite a bit. She posted a picture of her most recent show on social media, which garnered plenty of positive feedback.

However, one comment stuck out to me. The person told her that she travels too much and inquired about her husband’s whereabouts. I could only assume that the comment was in jest per the smiley-face emoji that was included. My friend took it as that as she simply replied “lol. He’s with me” before adding, “I’m back home.” She was trying to explain that the show was actually in the city in which she and her husband reside.

My friend added a laughing emoji to her comments in the hopes of matching the person’s (assumed) lighthearted nature. Actually, she’s not as petty as I am, so I’m sure her response to the query was most likely genuine. But that social media remark made me think about my own situation. I’ve only been married for a little over three years and I’ve noticed that several judgments have been made about what I do with and without my husband.

Although I expected people to have their opinion on just about everything marriage related, I must admit that I was taken aback by comments related to my role as a wife. After all, times and expectations have changed.

We were newlyweds, married for only two months when I had a short telephone conversation with my grandmother, just catching up. A simple question about my cooking plans for the evening (she expects me to cook every night so my reply surprised her) turned into quite the read.

I respectfully told her that I had plans to go to the movies with my friends (it was Thursday and a special screening of The Best Man Holiday was showing – girls’ night!) and that I already told my husband to pick up chicken for dinner.

In a perplexed voice, she asked, “You’re going to leave him at home all alone?” I didn’t hesitate to say yes. In turn, she wasn’t shy about expressing her disappointment and telling me that I need to make sure he has food, daily.

She didn’t say it but I naturally assumed that she thought at that time, and still thinks, that I’m not being a great wife by occasionally leaving my grown and competent husband home alone to fend for himself. Although we completely disagree on such matters of the house (get it?), I can only imagine that she was trying to help since she comes from a different generation. A world and time where a wife’s treatment of her husband was on a different level than it is now. I got a glimpse into that world when I stumbled upon a list from a 1955 Housekeeping Monthly article titled, “Good House Wife’s Guide” courtesy of Littlethings.com. This antiquated information contained 18 instructions for married women to adhere to, but one alleged piece of advice really jumped out:

“Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.”

Despite it being nowhere near 1955, this one recommendation pertains to my marriage, but with a twist. I don’t complain if my husband goes out without me and he definitely has no issue with my leaving him at home. While we are a team, we both understand the need and importance of branching out on our own in the hopes of giving one another space and the ability to enjoy other people’s company.

Each marriage is different and as soon as you have outside people interfering (especially ones who don’t know the details of your marriage – they shouldn’t anyway), things can go awry. I am a grown woman and can go where I please. And while some don’t fancy my moments of independence, I’m just glad my husband and I are on the same page.

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“I Want People To See Four Beautiful Black Women Living Life:” The Women Of Girls Trip On The Film’s Impact

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The trailer for “Girls Trip” already has us giddy with excitement for a myriad of reasons. One, the movie stars some of our favorite ladies: Regina Hall, Jada Pinkett-Smith, Queen Latifah, and Tiffany Haddish. Two, it’s set in New Orleans and based around one of the greatest annual events for Black women — Essence Fest. Three, the men: Larenz Tate, Mike Colter, Kofi Siriboe, need we say more? And most of all, watching these accomplished girlfriends kick back for a weekend of fun reminds us of ourselves and our girls, which is exactly what the leading ladies are hoping viewers will take away from the film.

“A lot of what’s happening in this movie has happened to me already,” Queen Latifah told us during a visit to the set during filming last August. “I don’t know how you and your girlfriends get down when you go to All-Star weekend or go to Miami or freaknik but it is major. And it’s nice to actually see it happen [on screen] because it does happen.

“We plan these trips to go have fun, let loose, learn something, hopefully, and at the end of the day, we wanna have a good time before we go back to our regular lives and what we have to do every day. I just want people to see us four beautiful Black women having a great time, living life, and taking this ride with us.”

“And hopefully it inspires them to travel as well ‘cuz it’s a lot of Black women that don’t go nowhere — haven’t been more than 12, 15 miles from their house,” the film’s youngest star Tiffany jumped in and said.

“And it’s a lot of women who do travel but you don’t think that they do,” Queen Latifah added. “I got a friend whose mom is in an RV club… you wouldn’t even think Black people drove RVs. So when you see [the movie] you feel like, OK thank you for representing me and the fact that I go places.”

We also have to say thank you for the laughs. We don’t want to spoil anything for you, but Tiffany had us cracking up with her one-liners on camera and behind the scenese which is funny (pun intended) because we know Regina to typically be the standout funny girl in ensemble casts. We asked how it feels having someone else fill the funny shoes this time around and she told us it’s “different.”

“I love the character Ryan so it’s been interesting and fun, but it’s hard. I like being funny, but it’s nice to be able to do something outside. They let me be funny a little bit. It’s not different to not be funny. It’s different to not be the funny one in a comedy. If this were a drama, a b-tch would be like, ‘oooooh.’ But it’s still great. It’s wonderful.”

And it turns out the chemistry the ladies have off screen is as authentic as what viewers will see in the film, Regina shared. “It’s weird because everybody is really in their character. It’s almost strange that everyone is so — it’s so organic and it’s more than I expected. I’ve met some of the ladies before but we didn’t know each other. And from the first time we met in rehearsals, it’s like there was a history so it’s been really interesting energetically to work with a group of women that you would just hang out with. There’s so much love. I don’t know what that is but I love seeing images of Black women that show how supportive we are of each other and that we have been for generations so it’s nice.”

“Girls Trip” hits theaters July 21.

 

 

 

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Darius McCrary’s Wife Accuses Him Of Holding Daughter Over A Pot Of Boiling Water…He Responds With Pictures

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There are tons of people who don’t consider Karrine Steffans a credible source; but, at this point, she’s not the only woman who’s accused Darius McCrary of being physically abusive in a romantic relationship.

Recently, his wife Tammy Brawner filled legal documents alleging McCrary terrorized both her and their child by holding the little girl over a pot of boiling water. In the documents, she requested and was granted a restraining order.

The documents stated that the incident happened on February 10 when McCrary began hurling picture frames and other objects around their home. She claimed he even hit her in the head with his forearm. She says some of the objects came close to striking their 16-month-old daughter Zoey.

Tammy said that McCrary has abused their daughter on numerous occasions, including one time when he held her over a pot of boiling water, saying he wished he’d never had her. Brawner said that McCrary frequently spanked the child and had strapped her arms down during meal times.

Tammy said that McCrary has a problem with drugs and alcohol and frequently comes home intoxicated and violent.

A judge granted Brawner’s request for the restraining order and ordered McCrary to move out of the home. He must stay 100 yards away from both Tammy and their daughter. He’s also been barred from visitation until a court hearing next month.

McCrary responded to the allegations on social media with a series of pictures.

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…. Yea, right… sad some people will do ANYTHING make #TMZ

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#thatpart …. Hey, make sure you guys tune n2 @theoriginalbigdaddy #star tonight

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This is McCrary’s third marriage. In 2005, he married Las Vegas showgirl Juliette Vann. The couple divorced in 2006. In 2009, he married former video vixen and author Karrine Steffans. They split in 2011, citing irreconcilable differences.

McCrary married Brawner, a former Harlem Globetrotter, in 2014.

After McCrary’s series of photos, Brawner shared a response of her own.

Veronica Wells is the culture editor at MadameNoire.com. She is also the author of “Bettah Days.” You can follow her on Facebook and Twitter @VDubShrug.

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Life Hacks For Soon-To-Be College Grads

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Graduating from college will be one of the best things to ever happen to you. You finally get to show the world what you’re made of and make your family even more proud of you. It’s a great accomplishment for young women of color to complete higher education. But are you prepared for life after graduation? Here are some things to consider before the big day arrives:

1.  Start Looking For Job Opportunities Now. You don’t have to wait until you get your degree to decide where you’d like to work. Your last semester of school should entail actively looking for companies that you can apply to. Review job vacancies and get a sense of the requirements needed to do the job. Most employers are willing to interview someone who is a few months shy of graduation.

2.  Practice Makes Potential. It is super important that you get an internship or some experience in the job setting you desire to work in after graduation. Having a degree isn’t good enough because everyone applying for the job has a degree. Set yourself apart from other applicants by gaining as much experience as possible. Get an internship or volunteer to gain experience. Lower-lever employment is also a plus. For example, if you desire to be a Licensed Practical Nurse, working as a nurse’s assistant or a receptionist in a medical setting looks good on your job application because you will have a sense of what the work environment is like, compared to someone who only has a degree.

3. Revamp Your Resume– This can be a tedious task that will make you scream “forget it” if you try to do it the day before it’s needed. Update your resume’ regularly and have someone in the field you seek to be in take a look at it. You never know when the perfect job opportunity will arise. Be prepared!

4. Clean Up Your Social Media Image– Contrary to popular belief, having private social media accounts do not stop employers from spying on you–especially for federal jobs! Refrain from posting anything that makes you look like a bad employee such as drunk pics and using profanity.

5. Start Saving Your Coins– Graduation will be the greatest day of your life and a rude awakening all at the same time! Moving into your own place is costly–moving expenses, utility deposits, furniture, etc. Moreover, if you can’t get your student loans deferred, Sallie Mae will want her money six months after you graduate. Open a savings account or start replenishing the one you’ve been starving.

6. Clean Up Your Credit– If you are over your limit on several cards, it’s time to be more responsible. Students loans in default and a pile of credit cards can ruin your chances of buying a home. Some employers even do credit checks and will not hire you with bad credit.

7. Your Body Will Change– The figure that used to turn heads on campus will start to change after graduation. For one, your physical activity decreases because you’re not walking to class or participating in extracurricular activities as much. Take advantage of the free gym on campus because in the real world a gym membership can cost as much as $80 a month plus enrollment fees.

8.. Friendships Will Change-  After graduation life gets real–real busy! People have children, move to different states, get married, go through life crises, etc. Don’t take it personal.

9. Your Relationship May Not Last- Understand that you and bae may not make it last forever, and that’s okay. Find out what his or her life plans are before graduation to avoid being shocked later.

10. You Can Always Go Home- If you don’t score your dream job immediately or simply have no clue what your next move is after the cap and gown, you can go back to the place where it all started–home! If you really dread the idea of moving back to your hometown but have no other choice, be wise and think about what you can do for a living while you’re there. This may be a good time to start a business or go to graduate school online. Whatever you choose, make it productive!

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For The First Time Ever, There Was A Woman Of Color On Every Runway This NYFW

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The Fashion Spot, which does an evaluation of diversity after every New York Fashion Week, put out their findings for the most recent Fall Fashion Week (last week’s offerings). What they found was that out of the 116 major fashion shows examined, with 2,700 models making an appearance, every runway, for every show, had at least one model of color featured.

New York Fashion Week diversity

Still, they found that 68.5 percent of those cast in the 116 shows were White while 31.5 percent were Black. It doesn’t beat out the Fall 2016 NYFW, which was the most racially diverse in years, but the inclusion of models of color this time around was a slight increase from Spring 2017 shows last year. Some of the most diverse shows included Tracy Reese at 53 percent, Public School at 54 percent, your friend Marc Jacobs at 66 percent, Yeezy Season 5 at 74 percent, Kimora Lee Simmons at 75 percent, and on top, Gypsy Sport at 87 percent. The least diverse include big names like Marchesa (15 percent), Jill Stuart (13 percent) and The Row (13 percent).

But let me not forget to mention that this season’s shows were the most varied in terms of body diversity. Twenty-six plus size models were showcased on nine different runways. Christian Siriano (who dressed Leslie Jones fiercely for the Ghostbusters premiere) helped to bring 10 of those 26 models to the runway with his show, those ladies rocking eveningwear. And other big name brands started changing it up in terms of size, including Prabal Gurung and Michael Kors, who featured Ashley Graham as the first plus-size woman to walk for the designer.

These changes, based on the fact that there were 2,700 models, don’t sound monumental, but we guess any increase is better than a backslide. Check out the full report, including where things stand in terms of transgender and older models, over at The Fashion Spot.

 

 

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